it seems like every time I have a new friend and at first I think they're cool and everything, and then they act annoyingly childish and immature and retarded.
as for me, i'm not this kind of person at all. I used to be quiet (very quiet) and now i'm not as shy as i used to be but i'm not annoying or childish or immature or anything. So I end up hanging out with people who seem cool at first then they change completely. I don't like this! I need to somehow get my stuff straight and do something right for once. But how? How do I end up hanging out with someone that I won't regret hanging out with later?
Answers:
1. Start looking at your life style and deciding on the areas that you would like to include other people in.Making friends involves the same kind of approach and resolve as embarking on a sensible diet. You won't see results over night and there will bad weeks when nothing seems to have happened but after a few months your efforts will start to bring in results and new friends.Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.Be a little picky, there are two things that you need to look at. One is the most important part is that you enjoy the friend. The other is that you need to feel a connection. Join groups that share your common interests. Talking about one of your passions, such as gardening or writing short stories, for example, can help give you confidence to talk about other things with potential new friends.
Watch and learn from gregarious people who make friends easily.
Practise looking people in the eye when you talk to them.
Listen to what others are saying, rather than focusing on your own self-consciousness.
Smile.
Look for anyone else in the room who seems socially awkward, and approach them for conversation.
When you talk to someone new, ask them questions about themselves or what they like to do; it's a good way to get started.
Social skills can be learned, so seek professional help if you feel you need it.
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