My mom has a new guy living with her now. He has been there almost a year. He has no job now and collects unemployment. (His losing his job was not his fault, I do believe that.)
Anyway, this guy is a liar and a cheat. He has told my husband (not me) that my half brother (who lives with them) is hitting my mother. My brother would never even hurt a fly.
This guy has lied about more then this. My husband and I picked him up every morning at 6am for two weeks to come to our house and help my husband with different household repairs. In that time he has talked to five different neighbors. Nothing but lies.
I want to say something to this guy and the people he is lying about. (I don't want to give details, lets just say the lying is enough to make anyone want to kick this dudes ***. I am very upset) But my husband is telling me to let it be, to let these people find out on their own. If I do tell someone, they may become angry with me. (My family is crazy)
Is my husband right?
Answers:
1. Your husband is right sooner or later the lies this man is telling is going to catch up with him. However, I would be like you and want to say some thing. The next time you catch him in a lie or hear him lying about some thing, just bring the subject up around the person he is lying about. For example if he has lied about your brother hitting your mom wait till your mom's boyfriend and son is in the room and just politely ask what is up with this I hear you hitting on my Mom and then say were you heard it and let the boyfriend explain. Most people that lie all the time will stop after they see you are going to point them out on it in front of the person they are lying about
2. if i were you, i would distance myself and my family as far as possible from this guy.... trouble will be hot on his tail sooner or later, and if i were you i wouldn't want to be anywhere around when it does!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
3. get your mother aside and ask if your brother hits her..you can tell by the look on her face if it is true or not..when she asks where did you hear that nonsense..tell her..
4. If the people you tell will be angry with you, then yes, your husband is right. Just confront the liar, but not those he's spreading lies about.
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