My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years now, we've oftened talked about getting married, we both want to but now I have lung cancer, I feel that eventually I'll become a burden to him, and feel that would be terribly unfair to him. Please tell me what you think.
Answers:
1. If you really love each other then you should get married.
2. If he really loves you then it shouldn't matter to him.
3. It really depends on you're age, but I would not get married if I knew the guy for only 3 years.
4. Ask him
5. If he knows you have cancer and still wants to marry you - what's the problem? Go for it. Both of you will just have to make an extra effort to keep the future medical expenses in mind. Good luck.
6. Talk to him about your feelings. Make sure you both know what you want. Then, if it's what you both want, get married.
7. hey stop thinking like this !!
go get married!
8. Well I think nothing should come between true love.
9. if he really loves u,he'll marry u no matter what!
go,go,go!
10. you will need help in the future, if he is willing to handle the burden of you, i say go for it.
11. I'm really sorry to hear that you have lung cancer. God bless you.. If you love him and it feels right then go for it..No regrets
12. Lung cancer is not that big a deal, it can be resolved. I had it at one point in my life and now it is not an issue. If he loves you and knows all about it go for it!
13. If u want to marry him and he's alright with u having lung cancer then get married.
14. Talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel, and ask him to be completely honest. I know this isn't the nice yes or no answer you might have been hoping for, but I just think you really have to do this first. Hope you get better
15. Would it not be more of a burden to him knowing that the two of you could of had some good years together and it was let go? We take what we have from life because that is all there is. If you can have happiness, if he can have happiness...you should embrace it. Go to Vegas you crazy in love people and have fun.
16. love works wonders..........my husband had to deal with alot of medical issues I had and it made our love stronger....I wish you well....
17. Just live together.
18. i think you to should go with your gut and go ahead and get married as you intended. No lung cancer can get in the way of your love He loved you before the cancer he will love you after
PS send me many wedding pictures
19. if you love each other and he already knows about your lung cancer then go get married then.
20. Love is till death due us part..Love is not something to be taken lightly and if you love him and he loves you then marry. Your lung cancer shouldn't keep you from doing things that will make th both of happy.
21. i say yes you should get married. it doesnt matter what you got if he loves you he loves you dont let one little thing ruin yur realtionship together. even though if u burden to him. he will alwaysz love you sweetie just remember that and u would alwaysz be around him guiding him in the right direction. hoped i helped
22. my aunt has had this freind for many years,( through 2 marrages and divordes) they were sweethearts long ago, and he just had a brain tumor and was just recently diagnosed with skin cancer, and they just got married.
it's very romantic. if he really loves you it wont be a burden.
23. I believe that it is really hard to find someone that you love, and that loves you. If you really believe that this guy is the one for you , then you shouldn't let lug cancer get in the way. If he really loves you then he will stick by you. Love is a delicate and once you find it, dont ever let it go!
24. I think if he wants to marry you and you want to marry him then let the future be as it is....Take him to see the doctor with you and let him ask his questions about what is to come. Then sit down and talk about it.....You might find he wont feel you are being unfair or a burden at all.......I'll keep you in my prayers...Cancer is a hard thing to deal with...
25. Aww.. It seems to me you two are in love! He'll love you no matter what! GO FOR IT!
best of wishes!
26. If he loves you then he will marry u !!!!
Tell him exactly what u just said in that desciption and i know it he will still love you and ull never be a burden to him !!!!
I know if u tlk to about this he will just be amazed
I can garuntee that he never has even thought of u as a burden before in his tiem dating you !!!!
Talk to him !!
He'll be there for u !!!!
: )And im so sorry ull make it through cancer im sure of it !
April : ) : ) : )
GOOD LUCK : )
27. Great thing. Just hold off on the 'having kids' part for a few years after the marriage though.
28. do whats in both your hearts, weddings are stressfull to plan and with what your going through it may make you worse, so if you want to go ahead do it soon rather than later as you cant predict how you will feel health wise in the future and let other people help to keep you stress free or have a simple do, weddings are beutifull but its the marriage that matters, so its up to you xxx
29. if he loves you and he knows that maybe one day he'll have to care for you and he is fine with it...i dont see why not...
he loves you and wants to be there for you...then let him but remember to talk...communication is key
30. Let him decide. Don't make decisions for him, based on your health condition. If this man truly loves you, then nothing would matter, just as long as you two are together. WORDS OF WISDOM: "God can heal all sickness and diseases". Get on your knees and pray. If your not comfortable with that, find a man or woman of God that can get a prayer through to the Lord.....
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