ok first off i want the straight truth lol, NO BS "dont want to hurt his feelings" answer ok. Thank you.
Anyways i have noticed that when i get around girls i like i tend to be nervous and dont tend to talk much and i become shy, really shy, to the point where i start to shake a little, cant even knotice, and i tend to sweat, LOL! talk about fear! Anyways when im home i tend to open up? Idk at home im just more free spirited and let loose with my friends after school. In school with the girls i like i become tense and shy/very nervous. This is the reason i dont tend to get the Some of the girls i like. Please help me, any suggestions, tips or advice would be helpful.
Sometimes i say to myself im going to let loose and act like i only live once and by the time i get to school, i dont do it! lol! I REALLY ADVICE!
Answers:
1. 10 hours ago
15 almost 16 yrs old btw
2. When you wake up in the morning, I want you to think about everything that you like about yourself. TELL yourself that your a confident person and girls are attracted to you.
If you do this right, after a while you WILL become more confident, and that is a big turn on for girls.
3. dont think what they might say just do it!
4. Well, you know what, think of it this way: If they're popular, they won't even notice you! Or maybe they WILL notice you, and like you! And if they're not, well, maybe they'll notice you too. Because personally, I know how you feel, but really, there's nothing to be tense about. We don't bite. Usually. :)
5. just try to act urself!
6. It's (i think...) harder for girls to come up to guys and start talking. So, when guys start talking to girls, it's a huge relief to them, and we'll start talking to you, and hanging out with you more. The problem with guys, (most of them) is that they just won't come up to a girl and start talking to them. Just like bump into a girl, say sorry, then like "today's lunch was okayy...idk....better than usual" or something and she'll start talking to you. Trust me. Unless you're a compete social outcast....this would be a dif. story.
7. For some people that's just natural. Sometimes girls actually think that's cute. Eventually you'll overcome it. You just have to be yourself.
8. Hi, i'm in High School too and I am also very shy. VERY Shy. Anyway, if you want to overcome your shyness you need to start talking to lots of people. Everyday you should talk to somebody you don't know, and do it until you feel comfortable knowing yourself and others better. It should help you. Best of luck!
9. Get a girl's email address. (not one you have a crush on.) get used to emailing her. it's easier to talk through email. through your emails, you'll know more about her and maybe become friends. then that might help you feel comfortable around other girls. btw girls like guys who aren't afraid to talk to them. Take it from someone who knows!
10. lol all u need to do is clm down. im a grl and i was like that around guys i liked until i got ovr it bc i realized that guys r like me ya kno lol i sound all smart?
11. just be yourself dude that's the best thing. even if you get nervous and cant think of anything to say, some girls like guys that are themselves and don't know what to say and are not full of themselves. just go with it and if its meant to happen it will even if you're nervous
12. Hey man, just hang in there. There is always room for improvement but you still have to be yourself. Try talking to some girls that you don't necessarily like but are friends and start there. If you're really struggling for that one ice breaker, think of something creative. Not necessarily cheesy but different, sometimes girls find that even better than a conversation. Once you're a couple years older alcohol helps too haha.
13. Hi, Maybe i can help. I'm 14 and a half.
I act the same way around boys I like, or I used to at least. Just tell yourself to relax, their human, I'm human, everyone's going to make mistakes.
Try leting them start the conversation, or talk to them about something they have an intrest in. Be confident and tell yourself things aren't as bad as they seem...really they aren't. Girls get just as nervous to talk to boys, no kidding.
When you go to school, wear something that makes you feel comfortable. Listen to your favorite song before you leave home. Remind yourself of something you're proud of and remind yourself of a good memory. Read your favorite story. Chew your favorite gum. Dance like no one's watching. If you like to draw, draw. If you like to play basketball, shoot some hoops.
Do something you enjoy, you like, and do something that will relieve you of stress.
Oh and don't forget to get enough sleep every night. Don't stay up late worrying about girls...
try hanging around more girls, weather they be your sisters, cousins, mom, grandma, teachers, friends, any female. We're just like guys, just with a lot more drama.
Good luck, and just relax. Girls will like you if you can be yourself.
14. ok i see your problem because there is this guy that i like and i know and so does everybody else know that he likes me back but hes too shy to ask me out but its so weird because he is one of the loudest and most talkative boys you will ever meet. to try and open up to them start with instant messaging/text messaging just to open up to them a bit more because i would be happy to recive an instant or text message from a guy i like (although i think a text message is sweeter because it shows the person wanted to know your number) then from a text=>instant message , go to an email. after the email start calling them up, and i know this sounds weird but it would be really good if you could leave them a message on their cell phone preferably because you dont have to get nervous about talkin about random things but you could always reheearse a message. then if you really want to get things started progress to passing notes in class, and finally go talk to the person by sitting next to them during lunch(when you sit down they wont see your knees wobble lol) and then think of some topics in your head so you wont just be eating together in silence. so remember these steps::
text or instant message==>email==>call/leaving a message==>pass some cute love notes==>sit next to them at lunch
GOOD LUCK!!
15. It sucks, doesn't it?
You've already noticed where you don't feel shy: at home, where you're in a comfortable situation. The trick is to push yourself out slowly so that you can take that comfort with you.
Get involved in groups at school that you are interested in. If you like to sing, join the choir. If you like acting, join the drama club (or whatever they may call it these days.) Do something where you won't have to worry about what you're doing AND worry about talking to girls. Once you eliminate part of your discomfort, you'll probably find that that talking to girls isn't all that difficult.
16. Why are you afraid of girls? Just choose one, and tell her you really don't know how to act around girls... maybe she could help you. Quite frankly, the shaking part is a little weird, and might scare girls off.
After that... relax. 15 or 16 is an age when all teens are trying to discover who they are -- where they fit in in the scheme of things. I was also real shy once. Just choose a girl who's down to earth, maybe you'll relax a little. It will help build your self confidence once you feel you fit in a little more.
17. Its a number game, if you ask ten girls its very likely one would say yes. If you are lucky, I mean really lucky, then all ten might say yes. problem hay.
18. u have to control your nerves. so girls dont think your a fool and laugh at you
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