My x-
My X-girlfriends cousin called me today !!
She called me during work time , so i called her b ack after my work and i talked to her for a while . I been trying to forget my g-f for a while now . it's been 4 months since we ended everything
Now her cousin told me that she asked her "if i call her anytime" . To which her cousin replied , no and she's the one who calls me.
I told her cousin that , no matter what i still love her and that tell her this during her next birthday . I also told her to tell her that i never acted like someone else while going out with her . I said this because in an online friendster type site , she wrote for some weeks in the section " What did you learn from ur past relationship" , She wrote " People try to be someone else"
this really hurt me because eventhough she never really wanted to talk to me durin the last weeks , i still loved her ...but it's over now.
After this phone call with her cousin , i don't feel good , please help!
Answers:
1. Kiddo, if it's over, it's over. Don't look back. If you want to clear the air you need to talk to her direct and say things as they are.
But sometimes you have to accept that relationships end and there is no clean cut way for them to end, and that means there are answers you will never know.
I remember breaking up with my b/f whom I was engaged to and we went out for 2 years. It was horrible. But fill your time up with friends and do things. Don't stop living. Get out and just enjoy yourself. Move forward and stop looking back.
Staying involved with her cousin only prolongs the agony. Make a clean break.
Believe me there are WONDERFUL things waiting for you in the future. I met my best friend ( he was male and he died...another story ) after my split and for years we had a lot of fun and met so many other great people along the way. Right after he died I met my future husband too.
I've always believed when one door closes another opens. You just have to give things time.
Find things to keep you busy, take it easy, and have fun too. Meet new people. That is how you will get to know yourself and how you will start living again too.
2. nothing in this life is set up to make you feel good. time for you to move on and find a better girlfriend and to stop whining about the old one that did you wrong..
it makes you sound like a whiney crying looser...
sorry, but it's true.
3. It is sometimes very hard to let go of someone you love, especially if you have been hurt. It takes time for all wounds to heel. I know because i have been there myself. You feel angry, confused, and in a different sort of world. The trust and respect takes longer to come back in your life. Not all males/females are a pain in the '''''''''''. Its just a few that ruin it for everyone else.You are both obviously hurting, so let go of the past, and think of the future; because life is way too short and way too precious to dwell on the past.
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