I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He is 16 years my senior. I don’t think we have much of a future because we want different things – he has experienced the world a lot more than I have and he now wants to save for a house whereas I want to travel etc. The sex is great but whenever he does instigate sex, I dread it. BUT I love this man more than anything – I don’t get it!!!!
Answers:
1. Move on and give it to god !!!!!!!!!!!!!
2. um i dont know.
3. i think its great what you have going and just try to keep it going as long as possible
4. Sometimes love is not enough. Think of yourself and what will make YOU happy, because its YOUR life.
You should always love yourself FIRST.
5. I'd leave him you need to look at your own interests those should be your priorities.
6. Why do you dread him instigating sex if it's great?
Surely you knew there wouldn't be a future when you found out he was 16 years older right?
How old are you?
7. no clue
8. It sounds like, although you love him, you're not in love with him. I think the life experiences are just too different. I don't know how old you are, but it could be you're just in different places in your life. Please don't settle for second best. You really won't be happy in the long run.
9. wow. If you dread...the...then not a good relationship...you want diff things, end it.
10. Something about sex with him makes you uncomfortable. If its "great" though its hard to know what you mean. Maybe take a break from sex with him. You should pinpoint what exactly it is that bothers you when it comes to that.
11. "Move on and give it to God"?! What sort of a line is that? Give WHAT to God?
Anyway, this sounds like a pretty standard thing (except for the 16 years older thing - lucky him), you will either have to work it out between the two of you, or... "Move on and give it to God"!
I really don't understand why people bring Yahoo Answers into these sorts of complexities... What are WE gonna have to say?!
Having said that, I understand what you're going through. What with thinking a lot, being sad, confused and sometimes depressed - interspersed with some of the best times and thoughts. You're staring in front of your screen, thinking "What now?", "What next?" - so you ask us.
I have spared you the usual cack answers you often get such as...
"Dump 'im, he's probably gay anyway"
I know this answer hasn't helped, but I hope it's cheered you up a little.
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