my mom is such a cold person. she doesn't love me like a regular mom would love their child. she isn't proud of me, she does not incourage me, she thinks I'm the worst thing that ever happend to her. I am nothing but a problem. all i do is make everything worse. everyone is happy without me. i try to talk to her every day but she doesnt listen. she really and truly does not listen to me. im screaming, crying, but she just doesnt care. 99% of the time she is telling me that i didnt do that or i never do this or asking me what is wrong w/ me. i dont have anyone to talk to. therapy doesnt help. im so depressed. i cant take it anymore. i feel like it would be better for everyone if i just killed myself. i need help soon or else it will be too late. im so depressed i cant even find enjoyment in ANYTHING. even my favorite activities...they aren't fun anymore...i am just not happy. i try to talk to me mom as much as i can but she dosnt CARE. she wishes i was someone else. im her only daughter
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1. she probably does love u, she just doesnt know how to express it in the correct manner
2. Are you for real??
3. You've obviously disappointed her.....you need to try harder at things and not be so self centered
4. you can't make her love you..some people aren't capable of being parents and that's not your fault...you have to make yourself happy and when you become an adult you will find someone that will love you for who you are and who will be proud of you...til then just remember that you are special and you will make it thru anything...
5. wat u need to do is to relax. Try making an account in ffr and make a profile.but wat i do is that i listen to music.i noe wat it feels like because im on my moms e-mail. but anyways i felt like i wanted to kill myself but i found out there is more to life than u can expect. Try getting someone u noe like ur friend and tell them the things that is going on with u. Maybe someone feels the same ting about u. Just like me before. i hope it works out for u. :)
6. well i would do something that my mom notices then tell her that i need help, i could go to a psychiatrist, he could subscribe some anti-depressants and suggest a good therapist.....( i know therapy seems like it doesn't work, but most therapist suck, and you could find a good one i bet.) and it should work out, i have a problem with depression, and that helped me. i hope i helped
7. Oh sweetie, why soo reactive?You know what I used to feel that way too towards my Mom, i thought she loves everybody except me, y don't you take into stride, change your attitude, or do some innovations.See, loving is not a one-way traffic, it should be a two-way one.How do you know your Mom is in trouble too, sometimes if we can't get what we want we react this way...have you tried heart to heart talk with her?Have you at least opened up to her?Did you try talking to a closest family or relative about your dilema with her?wish I could talk to your Mom too, but in the meantime, consider this a challenge to you, maybe there is a missing link between you two that has never been developed..try writing al your feelings in a booklet, everyday of your life, pour out yourself there, write all your sentiments and wishes there, and this way you will be relieved...prove to her that you are worthy of all this attention, and make changes in your attitude towards her...of course for the better.after all she si your Mom, you have only yourselves in this world...please follow it up with me in an email..i can share you more..ok?Don't cry baby, I am here for you..I am your friend now...and I was in the same boat once, but i won!!!Be positive!!!
8. I can't believe you woudl say you might kill yourself,
your mom is lying to and about you...don't let it get to you...let her be a b!tch it's only until you're out of the house...
ok, the best solution(believ it or not) is God, and Christianity, I'm totally not kidding God has helped me so many times it's not even funny, he cheers me up when I'm depressed, he's like the best friend you will ever have and on top of that he loves you, he will never stop loving you...
please concider giving your life to Jesus and God, I cannot stress this enough...
Suicide n.: the highest form act of selfishness...
...this is sooooo true, if you kill yourself, you will make people a lot more sad or depressed than you have ever been...you cannot comprehend the type of pain people will go through if you kill yourself
also, as hard as it may be, tell your mom you love her(and try to mean it). your mom may be stuborn at first, but let her know, despite all her ahte(that she may or may not have), let her know you love her, this will change her perspective.
9. OMG i know how you feel. Growing up me and my mom were like oil and water. I used to feel so bad, cry all the time. You have to just live through these hard times. Now that i'm older (out of my teens and my mom out of menopause) my mom and i get along a little better, No, we are not the best of friends, but we get along. Music helped me, i would go to my room and listen to music all day and i would try to get out of her way. I know that its awful to be in the position you are in, but try to look at the brighter side of the picture.
10. Ask yourself this question: does your mother love anyone?
It could be that your mother is not capable of giving you the love that you want and need. Or, it could well be that she DOES love you, but is unable to show it.
Unfortunately, some people lack these abilities. It is very sad when this happens, and these people should not have children. However, we don't get to pick our parents (or our children, or our siblings) - so if your mom seems to be incapable of showing you love and affection, you will just have to decide that it is NOT YOUR FAULT. If you had been perfect, she probably would not behave differently. Maybe some day when you are older, you can have a talk with her and try to determine why she was incapable of being the mom you wanted...but for now, you will need to take care of yourself and your needs.
Now, I'm not saying that you get a season pass to misbehave. Maybe you are interpreting her disciplining you as disapproval or contempt. But if you are doing everything she tells you to do, and going by her rules, and you still feel unloved, that is different.
Remember, even if your mother doesn't love you, you can still love yourself. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself that you love yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you and things that please you. Get a pet, if possible.
Don't give up entirely on Mom. Tell her you love her. Tell her about all the things that you like about her. Be patient. It may take a long time, but probably she will eventually realize that she has a wonderful daughter and that she loves you.
And please, seek help for your depression. Don't kill yourself. If you are doing this as a "SO THERE!" - think about it. If you die, are you going to be there to say "I told you so. Now aren't you sorry?" No - you're going to be dead.
Your life is a gift and it is up to you to go into the world and make something of it. If your mom is the most wicked and evil person in the world, it is still not worth killing yourself over.
Many people in the world will love you if you are a good person and have a good heart.
Also, many people have crappy childhoods and then go on to be great parents who give thier children wonderful, happy childhoods. Believe me, this is true.
Good luck to you.
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