I dont love my husband, he says he loves me..he may be a nice person also. I dont know why I am not able to love him? Why I am always want to get away from him? He does small small mistakes and I get angry like a volcano...whats wrong with me. I feel so bad at the end of day..He cant take it when I say leave me out of my anger. How will I change myself? Plz help me. i am still in touch with my ex though, he misses me a lot..he syas he knows what he lost. Have not I recovered yet? Plz plz help....
Answers:
1. You're a hot potato. I think you can handle both men. Go for it.
2. Sorry to say this, but haven't you caused enough pain in life to others? You need to get away from this poor man and give him some peace! You are no catch in the state you are in, and please do not inflict yourself on your ex...he is an ex for a reason...Please get to know yourself before you unleash yourself on anyone new..you have TWO failed marriages under your belt..perhaps you are a person who does not do well in marriage! Love and peace, Goldwing
3. Problem number one: Still talking to ex.
Solution: STOP NOW! Block his number, email, EVERYTHING!
Problem number two: Anger problems
Solution: Anger Management
4. Soooo....... What are you wasting his time for? Pack your bags and go back to the ex. The current husband will be sad for some time, but will get over it pretty fast and find a decent woman who will make him happy. You have no right to waste people's lives the way you do.
5. when u are unable to love your husband, but you still stay with him for whatever reason it is, that's a such miserable, soon or later u two will fight with each other regulary, and then i guess u know what will happen, u are rejecting him now, like i was, i dont even let my ex-husband touch me, i felt disgusting, then i know is time to end it.
6. Stop nagging and be happy with your husband...
7. As long as you're foolish enough to continue to be involved in your husband's life even though you don't love him, you're going to bring even more misery on yourself.
Running from your ex-husband and into the arms of your ex-boyfriend, will be another mistake you will regret. Stop being desperate and make a clean slate for yourself, instead of picking up trash along the way.
Will it be easy? No, but if you're determined, you will pull through.
But, it is unlikely (despite your whining) you will do anything that will improve your life. Why? Because you are one of these types of people who find it easy to delude themselves.
8. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. Why are you married and still talking to your ex-boyfriend? Confiding in him about all this, no doubt.
Take a step back and realize that your ex does not have good moral values. He SHOULD be leaving you alone. You both already had your time together. It does not say much for him for doing this. He will do it to you if he thinks it is okay now. You think your life is bad now... nothing will hurt you more to find your ex doing this behind YOUR back!
Your anger is likely built up from a number of things. You should take some time for yourself and think things through. You are getting caught-up with "life." Taking what you have for granted.
I know I don't have all the sorted details to answer properly, but talking to your ex is bad news. If you can't communicate with your husband, and be straight with each other, then what are you doing? Talk to your husband when you are calm and tell him that you feel angry all the time and not sure how to get the love back. See what you two can come up with together.
9. The reason why you don't love your husband anymore is because you're still interested in your ex and you're having contact with him. Sometimes in our marriage we get bored with what we have and start seeking fullfillment and attention outside of our marriage. Its not that your husand has changed, its you thats changed. The grass is looking greener on the other side but you're going to realize that if you leave your family that that same grass is the same as its always been too and you still won't be satisfied. You're blowing up at your husband because you want something that you can't have and you're trying o push him away so that he can give you a reason to go into the arms of your ex. You're just looking for an excuse to say its alright to still be in love with your ex. You're filling guilty and you don't know how to deal with your feelings so you're taking it out on your husband.
10. If you do not get what you love, you should love what you get. This is the Key to living a successful life. Your ex may be interested in you but how can you be sure he will be interested after you join him. When you live together only then you come to know the shortcomings of the person. If he loves you he may not have disturb your married life. You have asked for advice and I will advice you to Love what you have got. Things will change.
11. Honey, it sounds like you may be depressed, in a manic depression sort of way. Or you simpy are trying to be with someone you are not "truly in love with". I feel somtimes I am a complete idiot, my husband is sweet and doesn't ask any questions and cooks, cleans laundry and works, everything; and because I am not "in love" I am miserable. I want someone else.
12. you need to get help to fix the one you have now. don.t look back. look ahead
13. i'm in the exact situation as you file for a divorce or seperation keep in touch with both men just don't commit to either one till you know exactly what you want first try being alone for a few weeks atleast you never know you might just end up missing your husband but girl for the most follow your heart i know it's hard to decide when your under so much stress well good luck too you and me
14. As long as the ex is in your life you are always going to be torn. Either be with him or cut the strings. There is no inbetween. Maybe five or ten years down the road - if best. I talk to my ex from time to time. It's a "Hi - how's the family" when we see each other on IM. We do not discuss personal life beyond mutual friends. I've also been with my husband for almost ten years - so I guess I am doing something right.
Anger is usually a sign of regressed depression. My advice is get into counseling for you. Get your head straight. Then and only then can you worry about others.
15. You answered your own question.
Your problem is that you are still in touch with your ex. When your thoughts are wandering to someone else, you spouse looks worse and worse to you. Stop the contact with the ex and start thinking about your husband. You loved him once...remember?
16. If you will search for positivity in your hubby you will get.
If you will search for negativity, you will also get that.
Thing is, You will get what you feel for your hubby.
Plzzz
Only for today,
Ignore his mistakes, look for the love which he shows towards you in those small moments which you dont remember.
Only try to figure his positive aspect. Try to be with him. You will soon find that he is the only guy in this world who will do almost anything which would plese you.
Try it for one day, you will get your answer.
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