i see my bf nearly every day of the week, i have just turned 18 nd he is 23 and i liked to go out wiht my friends on a fri night but i dnt want him to come because i need my own night once a week to do my own thing with my friends, he thinks its a big thing,.
am i out of order for wanting this or am i right?
Answers:
1. Hmm, I would say you're right.
2. You're right.
3. It's important in a relationship to recognise that each person is an individual with wants and needs, and sometimes this means spending time apart. It helps to reflect on what this person brings into your life. He has to realise this, and if he's worried about fidelity then you have to have a talk with him.
4. I think that you are right. As long as you're making time for him and your relationship then you should be allowed to have some "me time" with your friends. You are still young and you're at a stage in your life where you should be enjoying yourself and experiencing new things. he sounds like he's being insecure and controlling but to be tied down at your age is bound to cause problems. He's probably through with the club scenes and hanging out and he knows whats out there so he's scared that he'll lose you but you need to reassure him and tell him that you also need him to trust you and give you your space.
5. you deserve freedom too.tell your boyfriend that you need your own night.i believe your boyfriend will understand as girls are human who have feelings too.
6. you are so right! everyone needs some space once in a while.
7. You are right and very much in order for wanting a time just for you. May it be just be a time for wanting to be alone or with friends, your boyfriend needs to respect this decision. Your boyfriend needs to humbly accept that love doesn't mean control.And to love somebody, you have to learn to set them free.
8. Everybody needs ME time. Whether its with your friends or playing golf or even if its PS2 time...lol
I've been married 14 years and 2 things have sorted everything...Me time and talking about everything. I know people that spend every moment together and they never last longer than a few years. Take it from me....you need your own space. Its the best thing ever and it makes together time much much better.
9. ..not to disappoint u or anything but i think ur wrong..
if your relationship is a serious one [there is love, trust, honesty..etc]..then there shud be no hard feelings towards ur bf wanting to be with u all the time..
why?
simply bcz ur bf in such a relationship would become ur own private life: he is ur friend, ur father, ur son, and ur lover..u can talk and chill all u like with him as one of ur friends..and when the mood gets steamy..[need i say more :D] so i guess u should be glad having him around all the time and actually going all mad without him being around..
ofcourse this is the case only if you felt that way toward him..if not well then youre right..its ur age to live ur life:you need ur time on ur own just to chillax [chill + relax :D]
the downside of it though would be making him feel that u r only with him when u need him..which is quite degrading if u ask me..
just sit alone and think about it..
cheerz
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