ok..there was this guy I met in this chatroom....after talking to him for about a day, he saids he wants to meet me...asking me if I wanna have dinner with him...then without me saying anything, he saids he dosent have any other "motives" , just wants to meet up...Like is this normal? or is there something else?
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1. 2 hours ago
He says he just likes meeting people..should i believe that..?
2. Red flag. You don't even know for sure what this guy looks like, do you? for all you know he could have been typing out sweet nothings to you while cleaning his gun. I say before you do anything potentially dangerous maybe give it a few months. If he's desperate to reach out to you, then offer a phone conversation. Inch by inch, you have to make sure its a good idea.
3. NO DONT
unless you want to get raped
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4. Most online chatters wait until they build a rapport before meeting. Wanting to meet you after one day is a little suspicious.The fact that he says he doesn't have other motives makes me feel that he does. I would keep chatting for another 10 days or so. In that time, try to figure out if this dude is crazy or not.
5. one day is not eanough to trust him, don't go you might be be in danger, but if for any reason you dicide to go, you choose the place and bring a friend along with you
6. its not unusual --- get to know him a bit better and maybe just have a coffee with him as the first met --- somewhere public and during the day just to be on the safe side --- i would also suggest he does have other motives (i myself was the same) --- best wishes
7. No , because if he didn't have motives then he would not say so, why he has to remind you what he is about like you would forget what your ex wore on his last day of seeing you, no you would not.
He is trying to is trying to use you and hoping you don't notice it.
8. I hear you....I met my hubby online yrs ago...11 yrs and ended up married so I know it works...but hey...your online situation gives me a warning feeling!
If you are asking this then you don't feel confident and your internal signals are warning you...so TRUST your feelings.
You never know what this guy's motives are, but you should know your own.
If you don't feel confident...then tell him! Tell him you need time to get to know him before you meet...like one yr of getting to know first.
If this guy has sincere motives...then he won't press you in meeting...if he has other plans.....then he will stop chatting with you and will move on to the next victim.
So don't become his victim..be your own boss, set up meeting rules and boundaries you feel comfortable with.
DON'T ever give out your information about yourself. Enjoy the new chat age and phenomenon...
Happy chatting and Be safe!
9. I have met a few guys online, who live near me, however, I still prefer to go a few rounds of email with him, to get to know him a bit better.. wait a while, feel him out. DO NOT give him your phone number or address..
If you really like him, and he likes you, he will respect u for it.
Do you have a web cam?
Before I meet, I want a web cam date, online.. it's fun, not dangerous, and then u get to see him at home, and chat..
After that, if u still want to meet, arranget to meet at a very public place, take YOUR OWN CAR, and make sure you tell at least one person where u r going, and what time..
Take your cell phone with you.
Have that person call u when u are on the date, just to make sure all is well.
Good public places are the mall, Starbucks, A big book store, like Barnes and Noble, or Waldens..
A chinese buffett..
Enjoy it, and relax..(after taking all of the above precautions).
It's a shame, but some people are NOT who they say they are... if you do not already have a cam, buy one, it is a great help..
Have fun, and stay safe..
I dated a wonderful man, for 6 weeks, after doing all the above..we still email, but date other people now, and it was a year ago, we dated.. He's a real friend.
A few others, just didn't turn out to be right for me at all, so, a date or two, and we parted ways.. no big deal.
10. NO NO & NO!
11. He might really have pure motives, or he may not. Don't tell him your name, address, phone number, or school. If he wants to meet you and have dinner, then go in broad daylight to a relatively busy place, and bring a friend.
12. If you feel there may be something there....find a place to meet where there are a few friends not just strangers. Its better to have them in the background for support just in case. Also remember what does your gut feeling say? 90% of the time that first instinct is the correct one.
Now if hes really interested then he will understand if you want to take your time and learn more about each other first. Good luck.
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