My gf broke up with me about a month and a half ago when she went back to the university she attends. I made a mistake by being too "clingy" for her and essentially scaring her off. We had a good relationship though, and we had such a great time together. She always told me that i made her feel so special and that i was perfect for her and to her. I basically treated her like a princess, but while not seeming like a pansy or "walk over". When school started again she moved back to her school 2 hours away. We had agreed to make the relationship work and visit eachother on weekends that were convenient for both of us. The first two weeks went ok and we talked on the phone every night for a few hours. When i went to visit her the first weekend, it didn't end too well because she was under alot of stress with her schedule and trying to make time for me and her friends and family. Basically our relationship had some stressors. She was supposed to come home the next weekend to visit
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1. 13 minutes ago
and the day right before she was to get back, she calls me in the morning to tell me she was excited and couldn't wait to see me. However, later that evening she calls to tell me she wouldn't be able to make it this weekend and that she doesn't think we could be together anymore. We had made plans for the whole weekend too, and i had even bought her a nice boquet of flowers to suprise her with. Her reason for breaking up was that I wasn't "the one" and the "spark" which we had just never grew...we were only together for 2 months and how the hell are you supposed to know if someone is "the one" THAT quickly? Well if that were true why did she tell me i was perfect so many times and how did she go from saying she couldn't wait to see me, to lets break up in only a matter of hours? I have a feeling it was due to being way too stressed out from school and everything else that is going on in her life right now. So how and when should i try to rekindle those feeling again and get her back?
2. 13 minutes ago
she swore to me she didn't find anyone else. I know cuz her schedule and other activities in school are just way too time consuming for another relationship. She even agreed. And i know her well enough that she wouldn't be able to live with herself if she lied about it. not to mention that her facebook and myspace profile lists her as single and there aren't any pics of her with some1 new. Even her best friends who i'm good friends with too tell me its not cuz of some1 else.
3. 11 hours ago
and the day right before she was to get back, she calls me in the morning to tell me she was excited and couldn't wait to see me. However, later that evening she calls to tell me she wouldn't be able to make it this weekend and that she doesn't think we could be together anymore. We had made plans for the whole weekend too, and i had even bought her a nice boquet of flowers to suprise her with. Her reason for breaking up was that I wasn't "the one" and the "spark" which we had just never grew...we were only together for 2 months and how the hell are you supposed to know if someone is "the one" THAT quickly? Well if that were true why did she tell me i was perfect so many times and how did she go from saying she couldn't wait to see me, to lets break up in only a matter of hours? I have a feeling it was due to being way too stressed out from school and everything else that is going on in her life right now. So how and when should i try to rekindle those feeling again and get her back?
4. 11 hours ago
she swore to me she didn't find anyone else. I know cuz her schedule and other activities in school are just way too time consuming for another relationship. She even agreed. And i know her well enough that she wouldn't be able to live with herself if she lied about it. not to mention that her facebook and myspace profile lists her as single and there aren't any pics of her with some1 new. Even her best friends who i'm good friends with too tell me its not cuz of some1 else.
5. 1 day ago
and the day right before she was to get back, she calls me in the morning to tell me she was excited and couldn't wait to see me. However, later that evening she calls to tell me she wouldn't be able to make it this weekend and that she doesn't think we could be together anymore. We had made plans for the whole weekend too, and i had even bought her a nice boquet of flowers to suprise her with. Her reason for breaking up was that I wasn't "the one" and the "spark" which we had just never grew...we were only together for 2 months and how the hell are you supposed to know if someone is "the one" THAT quickly? Well if that were true why did she tell me i was perfect so many times and how did she go from saying she couldn't wait to see me, to lets break up in only a matter of hours? I have a feeling it was due to being way too stressed out from school and everything else that is going on in her life right now. So how and when should i try to rekindle those feeling again and get her back?
6. 1 day ago
no she swore to me she didn't find anyone else. I know cuz her schedule and other activities in school are just way too time consuming for another relationship. She even agreed. And i know her well enough that she wouldn't be able to live with herself if she lied about it. not to mention that her facebook and myspace profile lists her as single and there aren't any pics of her with some1 new. Even her best friends who i'm good friends with too tell me its not cuz of some1 else.
7. give her some space. that's obviously what she is needing right now.
spend some time thinking about if you really want her back.
then tell her that you would like to talk, not necessarily to get back together but atleast for her to explain exactly what was going on and why she changed her mind so quickly.
good luck man
8. it happened to me, there is nothing new to your story actually. sad to say her time with you was over because she feels your too good and you treated her like a princess and we girls like a little bit of challenge to a relationship and in her case she can't ask for anything more. during the first week of a relationship we try to observe and see basically your personality and character and it seems your a typical boyfriend so special and that you have a nice personality something real nice, but after 2 weeks or 3 maybe, we want something challenging like we want to laugh and have fun together, and maybe in your case that is lacking. you know , spark or ignition is not realized, in other words you are so boring. you maybe special but there is something lacking in your personality. Try a bit of some sense of humor. but right now, let her miss you and wait for her to call you not you call her. and if communicates with you again. ask her out again or schedule another visit or meeting, then change your personality and don't treat her like a princess. learn to say don't do that but do this you own way. we girls like a little "spanking" because we want to feel important and wanted. the next time you meet say this phrase to her." i need you because i love you" i hope this will give you a little idea...
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