i have been with this guy for 4 years and its had its ups and downs feels like the downs were more then the ups but neways i asks me to do his laundry which is fine and cool, i can play the wife role but he doesnt just ask me he demands and commands that i drop everything i do and do his laundry he says that he should be priority, and to me my family and myself is my priority. We do not even live togetehr and he doesnt even live alone, he lives at his mothers im 22 and hes 27, like i said b4 i dont mind doing it but i just dont like being commanded and demanded like that WAT DO U THINK? WAT SHOULD I DO?
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1. 2 hours ago
He says he needs to know if i have what he wants in a wife, he talked about settling down n such but he wants to make sure i know how to be a wife who cooks and cleans
2. 2 hours ago
if we at least lived together i wouldnt mind, and if he didnt make me feel like hes commanding me then i DEFINETLY wouldnt mind doing it, i told him id do it but i just neva got around to it and he had the nerve to tell me he had other btches in line waiting to do his laundry
3. Make him a pie while you're at it woman.
4. He's pathetic, and he's using you.
5. If u dont live together step off the laundry let his mommy do it!
6. Is he retarded or is his washing machine broken?
7. Any man (or woman for that matter) that will try and control your life, especially over something so small as laundry, is probably unsafe to be around. That usually turns into something more serious later.
8. in my day, a woman would stick out her left hand and say "I don't see no ring on this finger". meaning, if you don't have the ballls to commit then don't expect wife service
9. He sounds very controlling and I am very concerned for you. A 27 year old who still lives with his mom?..... sounds like he is looking to replace her with you so I guess it is up to you to decide whether you want to do that?
10. Just be yourself.... Think.... What should you do... Is there a reason for your problem... Are going to die by someone commanding you.... Is it possible for that to happen>>>>
11. No one should demand. Get out while you can!
12. If he treats you like this now how will it be if the relationship goes further?
13. Well, I have two ideas.
1. You could politely tell him to do his own laundry from now on OR
2. You could do all his laundry - whites and colors - together in the hottest water setting with a cup of Clorox.
In either event, you won't be doing his laundry any more.
Who is this jerk? and why are you doing his errands for him? You need a man who shows you more respect!
14. Well from what I can infer, your boyfriend seems to think that he is living in the past; where women didn't have rights. He is in the mind set that women cook and clean, no questions asked. You just need to sit down with him and politely ask him what his deal is, and what he believes is going on. Thats all, and hopefully things should change. If he is a bastard about the talk, then well cupcake, you need to find a new man. Good luck!
15. TELL HIM TO DO IT HIMSELF HE IS LIVING SOMEWHERE ELSE IF HE'S LIKE THAT NOW JUST THINK ON HOW HE'S GOING TO BE IF YOU WERE MARRIED TO HIM RED FLAGGGGGGGGG..................... YOUR FAMILY COMES FIRST.................HE IS TO CONTROLLING LET HIS MOTHER DO HE LAUNDRY FOR HIM YOUR NOT HIS WIFE.............................
16. Well, when you're in a relationship, you gotta know what you're gona accept and what you're not going to.Doing his loundry is not something you should or should not do, the real question is: Do you really think tht's fair?
17. Do not do it my dear;
it is important that you be happy with who you are ; the first priority should be yourself and then your boy and your family;
you should care about yourself and your career, he will not care about when he want to go..
guys are nice to you when you care about yourself first and do not fight with him at all, be kind, be genorous to him, but care about yourself, see if you love him, if you can not be with him so keep the relationship;
18. OMG if my husband ever commanded anything Id kick him to the curb .First off tell him to go to hell its his laundry hes a big boy .second tell him to cut the apron strings from mommy I was 17 hubby was 18 when we got married so he never had the chance to cut the strings and we fought about how invovled hes parents were in every decision for the majority of our marraige .He need to live 1 yr by himself and then you too can move forward .third if hes commanding this what will be next commanding sex 3 sums to serve him dinner in bed come on get a back bone and show him its the yr 2007 .
19. You deserve better, the relationship is about the give and take, and it sounds like he's too self centered to reciprocate. Sounds like this guy has some room to grow, so if you aren't ready to break it off, then maybe call it a hiatus or a temporary seperation. Give him one more chance to straighten out.
20. Can I have a word with your husband? You can pass it along to him: stop being an idiot, stop being a jerk, stop being lazy and start doing your own laundry. His mess, his job, his life is not your responsibility and you shouldn't let any man demand you around like that. Tell him that you do not need to do anything for him, esepcially when he demands you and acts rude and unfair and stupid. The best thing for you to do? Find a guy who actually cares about you instead of just making you do everything for him! You do not want to get stuck with a guy like this for the rest of your life!
21. Stop doing it! Wow......can you imagine if he acts this way now, what will be like in the future. Why do you need to play the wife role....you are not his wife. Do you think he talks this way to his mother? If he does and gets away with it....this is the type of treatment you will receive. We all deserve respect...it is whether or not we expect it. My advice is to start expecting it right now....and why in the world is he still living at home at the age of 27? Personally, I would be drawing the line right now otherwise it is far more difficult to try and change as time goes by.
22. WhaT?? you dont even live together?? Oh hell no..there's no reason for you do be doing his laundry...ESPECIALLY if he's demanding you to do it. He's old enough to do this chore on his own..OR have his mother do it!! Why is he still living at home??? I dont even know why you let him command you at all?!! You need to let him know what YOUR priorities are, not HIS...
23. GOOD GOD, YOU ARE NOT HIS SLAVE. YOU SHOULD NOT DO ANOTHER PIECE OF HIS LAUNDRY. HE HAS HIS PRIORITIES MESSED UP. TELL HIM TO DO HIS OWN LAUNDRY, OR LET HIS MOMMY DO IT FOR HIM. SERIOUSLY!!
24. Rub his underwear in birds eye chilli and tell him you used a new laundry detergent. Tell him to get his mummy to do it.
25. Pack things up and LEAVE HIM! He is using you for his maid and cook. there is no relationship there. You can do so much better and will need some help getting there but there is plenty of good help out there. When you are a doormat, people walk all over you.
26. Short, sweet & simple---you should NOT do his laundary for him & you should start looking around for another guy.
From everything you said, this issue is only the tip of a very nasty iceburg.
He needs to grow up, in more ways than just this one.
27. I think you're wasting your time, it almost sounds like he's looking for someone to take care of him, not be his equal (which is what you should want in a relationship). He shouldn't be demanding you wash his laundry. I could see if you lived together or if you were washing anyway and he ASKED. But to demand that you do his laundry is a RED FLAG!
I say don't do his laundry, thats a perk or a reward, that he could get for treating you right and keeping you happy, its not something that should be expected of you unless you really are his wife and not just playing wifey. (and maybe not even then, lol)
28. I do my boyfriend's laundry because I WANT to, he never demands it and if he were to demand it I most likely would not do it. He's degrading you as a woman. Don't let him do it. Next time he say's to do his laundry throw it in his face and tell him to grow up.
29. Give this some hard thought, why are you with him? so he can boss you around? he sounds extremely insecure about relationships in his life. Just a word of advise, he will not improve the longer you are with him, but he will become more demanding as time goes on. If it were me, I would run fast out of this situation, and be thankful I do not live with him.
30. Its not your responsibility. You're saying that you prioritize your family and yourself over and above anything or anyone. Its time for you to talk to him openly and straighten things out. If he's hard-headed and insists on what he wants, then get out of this unhealthy relationship. What he needs is a maid/helper not a girlfriend. If you're no longer happy, its no good to stay being his girlfriend. You are definitely much more than just a "laundrywoman". Go girl!
31. DON'T....if he's sick fine.. then y d heck? look yr just 22 y get tied up with this guy? .get some fresh air darling.. there is so much in this world! don't ya wanna explore??? get yr self a good education & a respectable job . once u have ye bucks he would be willing to do yr laundary.....but on a serious note, just think abt it... if this is the state of affairs now , how wud it be once u xchange de wows??????
one question 2 u... u wud have just been18 yr when u wud have started yr so called relationship .honestly do ya have the maturity to run a life or a family... dear this is the time to expand yr knowledege & capabilities n work on yr futre. Dont waste it on these petty matters ok.
32. Forget the laundry. You said it, more downs then ups. What are you doing? Is there any future here? Be honest.
You need to understand the psychology of a "man-boy". When you say he lives at home and is self centered, those are signs of a maturity level. DO NOT make the mistake 99% of all women make.....Oh, I can change him.
Evaluate the behavior and expect it to get more pronounced, not less.
I am not sure why someone would expect thier landry to be done, that is a bit odd. Does he do anything for you, I mean one single thing that is not asked for...wash your car, bring food, fix something, whatever?
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