Me and my ex have been seeing each other for about 2yrs as friends with benifits. I messed up in the relationship and manned up and said less just be friends but she wanted to be booty call buddies. Anyway, I started realising that I wanted to be with her only and asked her to be my wife. She declined bcause she claims that she can't get over what I did. It's been almost 2yrs and I've been doing everything that i can possible do to win her back but she always throws up the past. I love her but i can't take the verbal abuse about our past. She still wants to see me, talk to me and be intimate but I'm not sure what to do bcause I feel so deferntly now. I love her and want to be with her only but she always brings up the past. I asked her yesterday if we could be a couple again and she said no because she doesn't trust me. Should I just dump her and move on or should I try to wait TILL SHE'S READY? iS IT POSSIBLE SHE WILL EVER BE READY OR SHOULD I JUST FACE THE FACT THAT I SCREWD?
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1. 2 hours ago
Just wanted to say that she claims to love me and ask me to call her everyday. We were together for 6yrs and now she has a new house and hangs out alot and sex is no big issue with her. She made me wait 4months after I told her that I was seeing her exclusively and she agreed that that' s waht she was doing then when I got a chance to see her she said that she didn't feel like having sex! She went away for 4 months and lied to me about when she was coming home but had unprotected sex with me 3days after she came back. She also said that she missed me when we were having sex. I told her I was gonna call it quits Saturday but she insisted I call her on Monday. I'm really confused.
2. honestly...stop having sex with her. not as a form of punishment, but its not fair to either of yall if you have feelings for her that she does not have for you. Tell her you want to be with her and ask what you can do to earn back her trust.
3. maybe you could wait a lil longer or just ask her if she feels she could ever trust you again. if she says no then yeah you should move on.
4. your doomed, the more you pressure her the more distant she is going to be. you will always hear about the past so you really should just move forward
5. It sounds like you screwed up and she is NEVER EVER going to let you forget it!!! She may never be ready to move on. Only you can make that decision whether you should move on. It seems that you are both in a rut, get out!!!
6. Stop being friends with benefits. Talk to her again.... if she wants to try again with you.. go for it. Share intimacy again. If not, then move on, make a clean break. Sex will only complicate matters for you.
7. Dude, girls are notorious for holding the past over your head. She'll never let that go, as she has shown by her repeated point of not being able to trust you.
There is, however, the possibility that she doesn't want to be with you, but just wants to use you and is using the "I can't trust you" excuse to get out of it.
Either way, she's stringing you along and if you really are the better man today than you were yesterday, then it's time to step up and move on. You've learned from your experience, take it with you, and don't make the same mistake again.
Good luck, mate.
8. Are you starting to understand why God said "Thou Shalt Not Committ Adultry"?
9. Give up. You ruined her trust in you and you may never get it back. You need to stop sleeping with her if you think you have deeper feelings for her you'll only get hurt.
Honestly part of me thinks the reason why you love her now and didn't before is because you can't have her anymore.
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