Alright, as the question states it involves staying in my boyfriend's dorm. He's a freshman in college, I'm a senior in HS so there's not a big age difference or anything. I'm supposed to stay in his dorm for one night, on his futon and I have a friend coming along anyway. One of the reasons I'm staying is to be with my boyfriend but to also go to something for the music program. The futon is on the other side of the room and we've only been dating for less than a month so I know nothings going to happen. I asked my mom and she considered then changed her mind saying it was pointless to stay even after one of my friends at the school can drive us back home.
How do I convince my mom that every thing is going to be fine and let me stay without getting in a huge spat over it. I want logical answers.
Answers:
1. 3 hours ago
The person I am bringing is a girl and second of all, it is actually allowed by the college because he asked his RA. I realize it would be difficult to convince her so now I'm working around it somehow.
2. 2 hours ago
As well, I know what my boyfriend is like because we went to high school together and we've been talking for hours on end to one another. My mom is aware I have good taste in the boyfriends I have though and I know my boyfriend wouldn't try anything.
3. I think it will be pretty hard to really convince her.
4. You can't convince her.
You can't convince me!
5. I think your mother is being smart. Zip your mouth. Arguing and trying to convince her to let you go will just tick her off.
6. Well i agree that you can't convince her but I also think that if you feel it nessasary to try then I would tell her that you and your friend will be there and that nothing will happen. Just explain it like you did here. But you could also try staying somewhere up there like maybe with one of his friends that are a girl or maybe staying in a hotel.
7. It may be a good idea to give it up as there is probably no way a parent would allow this. First off you state he is your boyfriend, why would she trust nothing will happen when you are staying in a boys dorm, which I am not sure is even allowed by the college. Second you would be spending the night with another friend there, you do not state if this is a female or male friend, but regardless, things happen even when not intended.
8. the thing is you have known him for a month.
9. well your mom has the right to worry. She's your mom and you must know that younger teens nowadays are commonly getting pregnant. Have someone your mom knows that is your age to go with you. In that way she/he will be your moms eyes and ears.
10. You can't convince her because, though it's unfair, she can't trust you. It's because most youngsters nowadays engage in sex so you can't blame her. She just wants to protect you.
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