My boyfriend got sent to a mental hospital, long story short, his brother died today, he flipped out, and they sent him to a mental hospital, if you want to read more, here is another question that tells about it http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Anyway, I cant visit him because it is 4 hours away, i am broke and even if i had money the van i have would not make it..... almost all of his family hates me except his mom but she cant get up there either. so i am stuck right now...he just went in tonight, i cant talk to him or anything it is too late and they wont let me. I miss him so much it feels like it is hard to breathe, i have a knot in my stomach, i miss him so much, we have been together for 3 years and planning on getting married. I have had the worst day of my life today.... and I just realized how much I love him even though we have been arguing lately... I love him and i want to marry him.. I miss him
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1. 3 hours ago
Have you ever heard of missing someone so much it hurts? This is the real thing, I am literally hurting. my chest hurts, i feel like i am about to cry, i dont want to eat anything, i just miss him, i need him, he is my life, he is my baby.... i dont know what to do. im so lost.
2. I think you should make this a little bit less about you and more about him....sorry, but you sound dangerously self-centred and narcissistic
3. Do you want to end up in a mental hospital too? Get a hold of yourself. He caused this to happen. He did this to himself. Go eat some ice cream and go stay with his mother for a while.
4. Sounds like that with your obsession you should be in there with him.
5. yeah i felt like that when i had a boyfriend. when he left for college. i missed him alot and it hurt even more when i found out he wasn't being faithful...
6. the best thing to do if you really feel this way is to suck it up and stop drawing attention to yourself by freaking out.
you need to be calm and strong for him. don't cause unnecessary stress over this terrible situation, and when he gets back just tell him that you missed him and be his rock during this hard time.
any feeling you have missing him will never compare to the way he feels about losing his brother. be his support, not an attention wh*re.
7. Be tough....he needs you to be powerful at this moment he ever needs you most.
8. yeah i know eaxtly what your talking about, it like aches and stuff, and well I feel all hollow inside, like an endless cold cavern in my stomach. JUST WAIT IT OUT HONEY, he's in there for a reason, to get better.
9. You don't need him you only think you do. The situation sounds completely unhealthy as a whole, and you should think of other options. Maybe not right now but soon. You have the Tunnel vision, take a step back and think about it, rationalize it and try and get the emotion out of it. What would you tell someone who is in love with someone in a mental institute? You will probably never get what you want out of the relationship, and you sound really young am i right? You have a lifetime of people to love, get too it.
It's not uncommon to feel physically sick when you are under a great amount of stress, my advice on that is to go do something, it's a beautiful night go for a walk look at the stars and let your mind go for a while. I'm sure you were alive before you met him. And don't do anything drastic or stupid, it's rare that these things pay off.
10. Ok first off im so sorry I know how hard loseing your brother is and how it sends you off the deep end .I know money gets tight .But do you have a job maybe you could save for a greyhound ticket they are the cheapest way to travel .What you can do now write him a letter ,send him a care package (remember they will go through it ),and finnelly Love can hurt and im not saying be a ***** you love him and thats great but on experience you need to learn to live apart this is a good time to just learn to cope .When you are married you will have 8+ hrs of work time ,and what if he or you is required to go to a conference ?What if down the road you wish to take more schooling .or you have kids and they require time too .I agree a broken heart is literal it has been documented people has died from it but take a deep breath try to stay busy and learn to cope .:)
11. time will heal!
12. That sounds like a really upsetting and sad story, but sooner or later your guy is going to un-freak and they're going to decide it's safe to send him home, whether that's tomorrow morning or next week or whenever. Plus, I'm sure if he's there very long, you'll have a chance to talk to him.
Also, you're going to calm down too. You're freaked out too from all the trauma and drama and your neurotransmitters are all going berzerk, but it's going to pass. That's just how the human brain works. Remember you had a life before you met your boyfriend, so you can survive without him for a while if need be.
13. I've read your whole story (I read the link too) and I seriously believe you both need to seek professional help. Your relationship is not healthy, heck it may even be dangerous and you two need this time apart. I'm sorry to say that this love you two have will send one if not both of you to an early grave. I mean think about it, if he doesn't care about his own life then how much value does he put on yours.
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