well ihave been w/ my boyfriend for 3 years now and we have a Lillte boy together who is one , and we don't get along and i moved to Nj to be with him and i want to now go back to Fl to be with my family and i love him but we fight ALOT and no one thinks we should be together and i don't want my son to think its ok for a guy to talk to a woman like that , but am i wrong for leaving w/ my son and not stayen in NJ where i have no family .. please help
Answers:
1. if you're happier in florida and you know there is no way to work it out, then you should go back to florida. your little boy should not have to endure a lousy relationship. it will hurt him more.
2. Your in a rugh spot, wow. All I know is Famaily comes frist. I hope this helps.
3. pack your bags and take your little boy with you!
there's more to life than you think!
4. there are a few ways to look at this:
"my little boy wouldnt have a daddy if i left"
"my little boy wouldnt have a sane mommy if i stayed"
"my little boy shouldnt grow up in all this anger"
all of these make total sense, but what it sounds like to me is that you want the best for your son. if that is the case, then fighting will do him just as much harm as not having a positive male role model. i think you should talk to your boyfriend about how your fighting is affecting both your guy's son. he probably cares about his well-being too. there are plenty of places for couples counseling in NJ, so don't lose hope yet. it is not too late to have a happy family. try leaving your man a note somewhere, (a nice, approachable one) and telling him you want to talk. try going out somewhere together, re-establishing the fact that you are parents, and telling him how important it is for your baby not to grow up in an angry home. ask him if he agrees and if he is willing to help you make things right. approach him as you would a team-mate; make sure he knows he is very important in this childs life, if not your own. i'll find some couples therapy for you.
http://www.yourmarriagecounselor.com/?ov...
http://healmylife.com/
if therapy is too expensive, borders will offer some great books that will help you out too.
last, but CERTAINLY not least, the best book that will ever help you is the bible, no matter what you're going through! next time you want some real answers, skip yahoo and go there! i really hope your situation improves. i'll pray for you.
best wishes!
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