What in the hell am I suppose to do? I think about him almost everyday. I still care very deeply for him, I still love but don't think I'm in love with him. But I can't get him out of my head. Our break-up was very sudden & I don't even know why it happened. It wasn't like I saw it coming because we never had even one argument or anything. Then to make things even worse I just saw him a few weeks ago & we talked. I asked him whatever happened to us & why he left me. He said he didn't know why. His words were "I don't know what I was thinking". I didn't find that very helpful. How do I get closure & put this behind me??
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1. 2 hours ago
Julius c - I didn't say I was stalking him. We ran into each other at the store. He lives his life & I live mine 30 miles apart. As a matter of fact I haven't ever contacted him in anyway.
Also a word of advice ~ when jumping to conclusions, be careful not to fall on your face
2. tell him how u feel
3. 8 years? Godamn, you are one obsessive neurotic *****, LET IT GO!!!!! That's the kind of **** that eventually gets a restraining order put on your dumb ***. 8 years...Christ I can't even remember ex girlfriends from 2 weeks ago. You are crazy!
Read my answer a little more closely, nowhere in it does it say you were stalking him...let me help YOU up.
4. Let it burn!!
5. ok well if yall are both single just hook up again right?
6. theres only one thing to do. tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same way, or at least will he give it another try
7. 8 years ago?? wasnt there someone in between?? you muz have really loved him...
I guess you should let him know how you're feeling now.. still thinking about him n stuff and see where he stands..
8. You should try to get back with him. If it doesn't work out, then you'll feel much better knowing that there is nothing there. It would be better for you to know where you are in the relationship so that in the future you don't have any regrets as to why you guys didn't work.
9. wow 8 years is long time tell him how u feel it sounds like u still upset about why he left u or broke up with u... it doesnt seem like u have feelings for him u might be still mad about not him answering ur questions... its ok let it go things happeneds for reasons it makes u stronger and it for better case for next stage good luck!
10. sounds kinda like a psychological thing. the answer to your problems might just be lost in the sands of time cause it seems like the only closure you are looking for is a REAL answer rather than 'i dont know what i was thinking'. the true answer is buried somewhere in the back of his mind and he might not give 2 damns of even trying to find it. you might need to talk to him again to get him digging.
11. Was he your first love? Because they said first love never dies. It is clear you are still in love with him. Haven't you dated anyone since him? If not, you needed someone to forget him. If you do, well you can't argue with that, you are deeply inlove with him. Check if he is still available and try if you can start with him again.
12. I'm no expert, but if there were any "true" feelings, he would have found a way to contact you. Let it go. Unless you need a one sided relationship, which would suck more than what you "think" you are missing. ( 8 years?? Please )
13. 8 years is definitely a long time to have feelings with someone. I have been in the same situation. I would suggest that you see where it leads. Don't speculate whether its love or not...go ahead and find out. You never want to regret anything...and you may regret never taking the time to find out what your feelings are really all about.
Good Luck
14. One way is by understanding that things happen for as reason and that the reason isn't any mistake, if u and him where ment to be you wouldn't ahve broken up that fast and if you have you would have gotten back together, fast.
Love is a two way street that means the so called good and bad.
15. I have found that a love for another person lingers on even after breaking up an as much as one tries to put it behind us it never dies as our memories cherish the good things breaking up some how is only glitch that we don't really want to remember.I hold feelings till this day for a love that ended after 20 years an like you when I see this person I still feel for her yet I see that things are the way they are an stepping back would not be as one would dream they would like.
16. Please don't let him get to you. You were in one place and he was in another. Then he woke up and realized where he was and scrammed out of there. Sounds like he's a jerk, who doesn't have his feet on the ground, and maybe isn't sure where he left them! Has he exibited any other examples of passive/aggressive behaviour? Maybe you love the idea of him, not so much him. You want to go back to that fantasy love, where he never really was. I can't imgine a man leaving a woman and not knowing why. He's not being truthful, even to himself. If he's still confused even now, he would be a millstone around your neck, and you have too much going on for him to keep up with. Is he an alcoholic? using drugs? He sounds really flakey, and you sure don't need that! You deserve someone who is in the here and now, not on some other planet when he is with you.
Don't settle for less. One thing I have learned about men, if they tell you they are bad, believe it! if they disappear on you, they are threatened by you and can't keep up, so it's for the best, even though it hurts. You are just missing what should have been, not him. It's the rhythm of coupling that you are in love with, the habits of love, not the man. He still hasn't grown up, and probably suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome.
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