What can I do? Obviously I can't start press a reset button. I'm sick of my friends (except for my one dear dear friend). I love my family, but some friends that I don't like anymore still insist on being friends with me even though I've told them I don't feel i amny times. I want to move away and start all over. I want a new name so no one can find me. Where can i go? I am currently a college undergrad who plans on going to law school, so i have occupational options. I want to be left alone and I want to leave behind past, annoying ties. The only thing holding me back is my dear friend and my family, all who i would miss terribly. It's my enemies from hometown and the "friends" I'm sick of that make me want to leave. What should I do. sometimes I think of moving to the wilderness but then I think of the money I will have wasted on education. Any suggestions would be great.
Answers:
1. I know the feeling all too well. Don't worry about the people you don't want to be friends with. Tell them how you feel and walk away. They'll get the hint. You should start making choices that benefit YOU, all the while keeping your loved ones close. Open your mind, try new things and break your boundaries. You may be surprised. Good luck.
2. Why dont you grow up and be a big boy. Tell the friends that you dont want anything to do with them. Dont answer their calls, change your number, do something. Running away to the wilderness is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Get over whatever issues have. It is a choice you have to make. Quit whinning. Put your big girl panties on and deal with it.
3. It may sound simple, but you just need to change your phone number, perhaps move to a town nearby if not further away. No need to change your name unless you're running from the law, or, from Organized Crime. Don't go to your usual haunts, stay away from your normal neighborhoods, completely change your surroundings. If you don't go to church, find one that doesn't piss you off, if nothing else it gives people the impression you're a bible thumper. If you do go to church, stop.
The other option is to just change your number and ignore them, if they get too bad, restraining orders can be drawn.
Either way, you still need to change your habits.
4. You're young! Don't freak out and change your name and move away! Sheesh! If you want to ditch "annoying" friends, DITCH them. The best way to 'start a new life' is to join a church, take a fun class, like photography or something. Meet new people that way. Soon you will have new friends and a new life, and the annoying friends will drop away like flies.
5. I know this may not be the most serious answer, but if moving somewhere like to the wilderness will make you happy and make you feel like you're doing better with your life, money shouldn't be an object.
Do you have family in another town or state? Somewhere you can still have ties to your family, but don't have to be near people that are bad influences.
6. I feel just like that all the time, but for different reasons. These annoying "friends" are easy to deal with. Move, nothing so drastic as to the wilderness or far away. Just move, to a new home convenient to where you want to be and then, don't tell 'em. Change your phone numbers, don't call 'em , don't give them the number and tell your dear friend and your family not to either. If you happen to run into any of them just tell them you've been really busy and walk off.
7. Go on a long vacation whenever you get the chance.
ex: a volunteering program for 3 or 6 months. During that time, contact only the ones you care about.
Like that, when you come back, you still keep contact with family and dear friend and then prepare to leave.
The trip will cool off the urge to flee and give you a better perspective of what to do to feel happy.
Good luck.
8. My friend you are wrong!!! You can start over. Tomorrow is a new day DO NOT DWELL ON PESSIMISTIC THOUGHTS. Only Optimistic thoughts will do from now on Confidence is free it's there if you want it ! .Don't toss out your education that would be ludicrous . A New environment would help. Move to where you want even for a year or two . NOW stop feeling sorry for your self and do something about it!!!!!!
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