I am looking for reasons why some people are anti-marriage. I am not looking for reasons like, "then you can throw your socks wherever you like without someone nagging you about them" but answers more along the lines of emotional, political, medical, etc reasons that people who are anti-marriage give for not wanting to ever be married.
Answers:
1. Because you have been with that person for so long, what is the point? You are considered common law marriage anyways.
2. I am not anti-marriage.
But one argument might be: I don't want to have children.
3. To many, marriage conveys a sense of ownership! No one owns another person. To many, marriage conveys a sense of control...No one can control another. To many, marriage dimenishes the sense of self, no one deserves to be diminished. Funny, I see people live together for years, happily, but the moment they get married, the love seems to die, and they go off to divorce court! Personally, I am not for marriage, Gay or Straight. I think that marriage destroys more love affairs than all other reasons put together. It is an archaic system that is no longer needed. Women do NOT need to be married to be complete. Men do not need to be married to have a responsibility towards their children...so what is the reason to get married? Marriage should NOT be something people do to "brag" to others that they can "get" another to love them! Peace and love, Goldwing
4. To name a few...
Because our society is more individual based than community based and making a public display out of your promises is sort of ridiculous, unless you come from a very close family or one that desires that sort of get together, such as a religious family.
Because divorce rates are high. Divorces are expensive and it's much more convienent to live together with the same intentions of commitment that married people have *until they divorce* than to go through the hassles of a wedding and later a divorce.
Marriage isn't a realistic need like it was in the past. In the past marriage was needed for women to survive. Basically, women had limited economical opportunities outside of marriage and unmarried women were looked down upon ie. old maids. In the past marriage was a way for women to survive and spend her entire life raising children and in the home. For many women, this is not an ideal way of life, but an existance without real meaning stiffling true potential. Marriage is then unnecessary for these women as they can support themselves financially and succefully raise children without economical dependency on a partner.
Sex is a basic human drive, but because our society accepts sex outside of marriage, men and women no longer need marriage to enjoy sex and reproduction. The definition of the family is changing. Nuclear families (opposite sex partners and children) are no longer the only type of family and some would argue, no longer the ideal.
5. i have been married once it lasted 12 years now ive been with this guy for 15 years and were not married, i just dont feel the need to be married. a piece a paper does not change things
6. Because there is a "marriage penalty tax."
It is cheaper to get married than it is to get a divorce.
You have to "check in" with your spouse to let them know where you're going, who you will be with, what time you will be home.
You share your money and assets with someone who may not have helped you earn them, and in a divorce it is possible for them to reap the rewards of your hard work.
If your spouse does not work, there are more costs associated with your household and only one income.
You learn to compromise on things you want to do or places you want to go if your spouse is going with you. Or you may end up going to places or doing things you really don't want to do, but will as a matter of respect for your marriage.
There is really no room for selfishness in a marriage.
7. Because we now have legal advantages not to. Wills. Domestic partnerships. Joint banking accounts. Separate careers. Child support orders for single parents.
We also have social acceptance not to. Unwed mothers are no longer branded. Living together quickly becoming the norm. Women having careers instead of families.
It is also a quick end to a relationship that does not require going to court.
I am not anti-marriage. I just think too many people no longer understand what marriage is and perhaps shouldn't be married.
8. I will say that I am not 100% anti-marriage, but I do not believe that society has the right to dictate or judge those who decide to stay single and label them as lonely. Most people get married these days because (1) religion goes against premarital sex and they have a hard time abstaining (2) religion teaches against having children outside of wedlock (3) for more financial stability (4) to have a lavish wedding, while going in debt (5) and much more
With the divorce rate being so high, most should definitely seek marriage counseling before saying the big "I Do's"
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