Wedding Guests Bearing NO Gifts.?

1. 2 hours ago
I spent $85 a plate, and no gift. Come on. I am the one that is greedy. I am generous and hard working. Even if they gave $10 I would be happy, but nothing means it was a free sit down dinner.

2. Don't be greedy.

3. Guests are NEVER required to bring a gift, however it is polite seeing as the couple is paying for you to attend. Gifts are optional. Some people cannot afford a gift. It is in very poor manners and tacky to call someone and say 'why didn't you bring a gift?'. Who cares if they didn't? Get over it, it's not important. You send them a thank you note for attending your wedding. Who knows, their gift may be coming later? And like the other person said, 'Don't Be Greedy'. P.S a guest's attendance at your wedding should be gift enough, especially if they had to pay to travel there and pay for accommodation. Don't thumbs down our two answers because it's not what you want to hear. You know we are right. I doubt any one else would disagree with what we say because we are polite, not greedy and rude like you.

4. I completely know what you mean about people just showing up to a wedding without paying. It's not greedy. It's DIFFERENT when you spend months planning a wedding to discover that people just showed up and didn't give you anything. Where I am from (Hawaii), we say... "That's so shame!" In other words, it's surprising that people aren't embarassed to just show up to a wedding reception when you know that the bride and groom had to pay money to feed you. At the same time, I think it would be bad etiquette to call someone and say, "Hi. How are you? I saw you at the wedding but I didn't receive a gift from you." Instead, I think that you should just send them a thank you note for coming to the wedding to help you celebrate.... because honestly, what's one person not giving you anything? It's a lot better and easier on you just to let it go and forget. Otherwise, it might create animosity between the two of you... Lots of bad things could happen if you bring it up again too. For example, what if you were wrong and someone just forgot to give you the card? It would create a sticky situation... so yah to conclude, I would just say, thank them for coming to the wedding, and let it go... even though it was completely uncool of them to show up empty handed. Be the bigger person and forget about it. :-)

5. Yup, allot of them. If gifts were a requirement to attend a wedding, I would be one who would stay home. And I'm the minister! Gifts are just that, a thoughtfulness. I give the same type of gift at weddings I attend. Home made, hand made cozy blanket for two. No matter of the cost of the wedding. I personally do not care if you spend 100k or $100.00. You ask guests to come to witness your vows. If you are one of the lucky brides who can have their hearts desire, fantastic! But to expect gifts is just a setup for heart ache. Back in the day, wedding guests were the ones who received the gifts, the wedding feast. Best of everything was placed before them, best of wine, foods and entertainment. Jesus' very first miracle was at a wedding, the wine ran out.....and the feast was just starting. He had the wine barrels filled with water, blessed them, the water was changed into the best wine anyone had tasted. How cool is that? Rejoice in the fact that you have recieved so many wonderful gifts! Best wishes, Chaplain Debby

6. Even if I do not attend a wedding I still send a gift. I had people at my babyshower not give me a gift. I still sent them a thank you card thanking them for coming.

7. Do not call them up and ask them about it. That's quite rude as guests are not obligated to gift. Obligation is not the nature of a gift. If they were obligated to gift, you may as well just charge a door fee or ticket price for your wedding. If you're sending out thank you cards and don't mind, it's okay to send them a card thanking them for their attendence, but I don't think it's necessary, since I believe the reception is a way of thanking guests for being there. It is necessary to send thank you notes to those who sent gifts though.

8. I don't think people should have to bring a gift, but it's not that hard to go to the dollar store and buy a card. Of course you're not going to call them up, what would you say? But why send a thank you card? There's no point, they came you fed them, you're even.

9. If the guest is a student (ex. college), then you can't really expect anything from them. They're not even running on their own steam yet. They're just students after all. I don't understand why people do that. The rule is to bring a gift at least the cost of the dinner plate ($60 and above is a safe bet) per guest. But still, newleds are starting a new life together. People should give at least a $100 dollars to help them start their lives. Sheesh! People are so cheap!

10. Who chose to spend $85 a plate? Last time I checked it was YOUR name on the contracts. This new fad of telling people to "cover their plates" is so stupid. I'm sorry but just because you are getting married doesn't mean I'm made of cash and I am not going to eat ramean noodles and no electricty for a month just because the couple decided to have it at the ritz-carlton. You still send them a Thank You but instead of including how wonderful the toaster was you tell them how great it was of them to come and spend that time with you. Unless of course you really aren't grateful they came at all since there wasn't a gift. If there was a problem and the gift was lost in the mail, stolen from the reception (this happens more than you think) or anything like that not having it mentioned in the note will tip them off so they can correct the "problem".

11. Yes you should still send them a thank-you note saying "Thank You for celebrating with us, it was so special having you there". Its the right thing to do.

12. Some people feel bad about showing up without gifts not everyone can afford it, however, they wanted to take part in your special day, Get over it, you wont recieve a gift for everything you do,a nd yes send them a thank you for coming