got into huge fight w/my bf of 3 years. we've had issues on and off for past 2 years b/c i have pmdd and he's made poor choices (called girl co-worker last time we got into argument. they don't talk anymore-he never cheated on me w/her). i am on meds and seeing a counselor
long story short-after coming home from weekend camping trip (and after i cleaned his house-we don't live together) he told me he needed "me time" for two days!! i usually stay at his house on our work days (we work nites). i thought he was up to no good so i showed up at his work to check on him. he got upset but forgave me. he didnt talk to me for 3 days then called to ask if i would come over to videotape his rc airplane for him that he built (then asked me if i was doing ok). i came over w/my kids for a while. we talked again that nite. i stopped over his house next day so my daughter could use the bathroom after playing at the park near his house-he said he just wanted to relax instead of doing stuff w/us...
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1. 3 hours ago
i got upset and tried to talk to him about how i wish he had asked me how i was first when he called instead of asking about the videotaping. he got mad telling me all he wanted to do was relax and i was ruining it. so i left (he did tell me he loved me).
i tried calling him a few hours later-he answered but was upset saying for me to just let him be. i told him i didn't like being ignored-he said he didn't want to do it but had to so he wouldn't be stressed out-he said he loved me and hung up on me. i haven't spoken w/him since (saturday). i've tried calling him-no answer (but he saved my voicemail) and he checks my emails but won't write back. i'm worried he wants to leave!!!
thoughts?!!
2. I dont think you have lost him yet. i would give him the space he needs since it seems that you all have gone through alot in your relationship. If he truly loves you he will want to work it out....if he doesnt come around, i know you may love him but you will find someone who can hang tough through the rough times as well as the good.
Good Luck!
3. Give the man his space, it sounds as if he is stressed out from work or life in general, and you attempting to contact him all the time is like a noose around his neck. I am assuming he has no children and probably does not feel like dealing with them at this point. Give it a few days without contacting him, if he does love you, he will call when he is ready. Otherwise move on.
4. your story reminded me so much of mine when i was dating my husband he acted just like this...i gave him some space we broke up for like 3 weeks and then he came crawling back saying how much he missed me and wanted me in his life but it was what he needed to make that decision was space and i gave that to him now we have been together for ten years and i am just relieved that he went through that when we were dating and not when we were married now he knows he wants to be with me and it was worth going through that with him back then...so if you really love this guy just tell him you will let him have his space for awhile to give him some time to think and then if he decides to come and want to be with you more then you will know that it is right...wish you all the best by giving him the space let him call you and pursue you don't bother him i know that is very difficult but he needs to miss you
5. Nothing wrong with taking a break in a relationship - if he loves you he will wait. Take care of your medical problems first - nobody is more important than you! It is hard to deal with problems like that and relationship problems at the same time.
6. It seems like a long time for him not to say anything but he does love you maybe he just needs to relax.
7. GIVE THE MAN SOME SPACE, WOMAN! You're paranoid and over-protective. You call him too much and are always in his business. Guys don't think about things like, "I wonder how she is."
You need to calm down and leave him alone for a while. You're suffocating him. Get a grip.
8. I know this may seem hard, but let him be. I just wasted 7 years with a man waiting for him to love me. I learned that hard way not to waste my time waiting. I also learned that people need their space to think. My father use to tell me "absence makes the heart grow fonder" If you really want to be with him then let him come to you. You may use this time apart for yourself too. With meds and counseling it sounds like you have your own issues to worry about without adding a man to the mix. I have a girlfriend that can't stand to be alone. She can only measure and find happiness in others, she can't do this on her own. Fix you first before trying to concentrate on relationships. How can you give yourself to someone else when you don't exactly know the real you is ready to give? I hope you can figure this out, when men are involved there is no telling. good luck.
9. hes stressed maybe... I dont see how he can go days w/o talkin to u... I cant go a day without talkin to my girl... basically leave him alone for a few days if u must. Try to be the bigger person and apologize (hopefully u'll get one back). But just let him kno u there for him with whatever he needs.
But if he doesnt come around, then u need to stop calling him and let him chase YOU instead of the other way around. Im sure he's stubborn from ur question. But he'll give in if he really does love u.
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