............. Yea I thought I was doin good, and moving on with my life, considering those 4 years with her were my best memories. So like I said, I thought I was doin good but ran into her on campus, and it brought everything back. Kind of brought me down... has this happened to you and how'd you get back up?
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1. Last time he tried to talk to me, I wanted to rip his head off (Kinda hard when he lives in Denmark). My boyfriend told me to be nice and remember that my ex had a pencil dick and that my ex's loss is his gain. I wrote him a nice letter, and that was it.
2. I am still like that. The guy I was with for nearly two years kicked me out (after cheating on me and not admitting to it when caught) this past April. I have talked with him twice since then (once recently) and I fell apart for days. I, too, had thought that I had moved on with my life and was doing much better, and had moved farther in my emotional state. But, just hearing his voice made me melt all over again and brought back so many memories! It made me miss him all over again! I do live in another town, have a new job and new friends, but just his voice does me in. How do I deal with it? After a couple days or so of being upset, I pull myself together and start over where I left off with trying to get over him. I loved this man more than I had ever loved any man on earth, and trusted him more than any one else in my whole life. So, I know it is going to take me a very long time to get over him. I have already committed myself to not having any relationships with any guys for 1-2 years time so I can work on myself and getting over him. In the meantime, I am just trying to get on with my life, enjoy my new job and friends, and try to make my life the best I can (guaranteed it is better than his from what I have heard from friends in that area about him--he really went downhill financially after he kicked me out but yet tried to say that he couldn't afford me and tried to blame me for his downfall--ya right).
Anyway, the only thing I can suggest is that you try your best to continue on with your life, all the while working on you, your new life without her. It will be tough, but you can do it. If I can, I know anyone can.
3. Oh, too many times, my friend. What brought me back up was usually listening to some happy music, talking to my friends, flirting around with another boy, or even just sleeping. I usually feel my worst when night falls and i have nothing else to think about. Try sleeping it out buddy. Sleep is good for you. And to some nice music that makes you happy that they ARE NOT sad songs helps. Sometimes crying it out is good, but not all the time. try to think about other things and you'll soon either forget about, or refill the hole she left.
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