How could a girl possibly love a guy like this?

1. 3 hours ago
Every time we see each other the girl has to wind up pulling her BF away so we don't start getting in each other's faces. The thing is, it's really affecting our friendship too. Lately her friend has been asking me if I 'like' her, so I think she might like me too. But the thing that pisses me off is she never defends me when her bf does something to piss me off when I didn't deserve it. My question is, why would ANY girl (and the girl I'm talking about is gorgeous in my opinion) like a guy who.. Controls them Never appreciates them Dictates their friends Acts like a douschebag (revving his car at me as he drives by to show how manly he is) Starts unnecessary drama And this girl is so desireable.. I just dont' understand why you would stick with someone when they treat you like **** and aren't even attractive (which is sadly VERY important to teenage girls) The girl also told me how it upsets her about how controlling he is, but she looks past it.

2. cause she fell in love with him, maybe he treated her better before and now he doesn't wanna lose her so he's overly jealous plus maybe she finds short and bigger guys attractive, or maybe shes not shallow which is really nice of her

3. Technically, I think that's abuse and it's illegal. Maybe she's afraid to leave him or he was nice at first and he's manipulating her now.

4. hi there, ok well i was in an abbusive realtionship, and the thing is that you get accustomed to it. For example bitteing your nails. Its hard to break out of that habbit.

5. She stays with him out of fear. Leaving him is an unknown, and people fear the unknown. Be supportive. Be caring. Be patient. Tell her how you feel. She'll come around if you truly are able to put her first. And frankly, there isn't any reason for you to confront her boyfriend at all -- it only puts her in the middle.

6. If she looks past it, it is love, she loves him. The question is Do you want to be in this guys shadow?

7. fighting with her boyfriend is only going to push her away... you need to make a move or somehow let her know that you have feelings for her. that way, she may realize that she can do better than her sh*thead boyfriend. Coming from a girl... i know that most of us stay in a shitty relationship rather than trying to find a new one... make it easy for her to find another relationship.

8. some girls dont realise what is good for them and what isnt. maybe he acts differently when your not around and its just the 2 of them but still it does not sound healthy at all for her to be with him. maybe she has low self esteem and maybe she thinks this is the best she can do, just because you think she is amazing doesnt mean she thinks it. This guy sounds like a looser, maybe tell her how you feel once and for all and she may feel the same, if he isnt letting you see her as it is what do you have to loose?

9. Even though your freinds with her dosent mean you can control every person who cones into her life. put the shoe in the other the guy is a work buddy and you are the boy freind who steps in and he gets an attitude with you for being her bf. So reall you cant control it i mean if something really bad is going on between the two of them thensomething should be mentioned. And if hes really not the girl for her then she find out soner or later. : )

10. Sometimes girls have such a low self-esteem that they don't think they can do any better. Guys who "control" prey on this and make them feel even worse about themselves. Sounds like she could be a little afraid of him, too. He's probably threatened her. (My first marriage was like this). My advice to you would be to talk to her briefly at work when he's not around. Let her know up front that you care about her and are worried for her welfare. Tell her that if she ever gets tired of being treated like dirt, that you will be there for her because you think she deserves better. That way, the ball is in her court. I wouldn't pursuit it any further than that. She's entitled to her choice.

11. Alot of this has to do with self esteem of the girl. I just wrote a blog article about why girls date jerks (I used a slightly stronger term on the blog.) I've listed it below so you can read it. Long story short, no matter what someone has going for them, lots of people lack confidence, self-esteem or just simply don't feel like they deserve better. Or they become scared that if they leave a less then desirable relationship they will be stuck alone. The best thing you can do for this girl is be supportive about everything else in her life. When she is confident and comfortable with who she is as an individual, she may see that this is not the relationship for her.

12. pal!!! you need to tell this girl how much you like her! it is sooooo clear that you like this girl!! if i were you be the knight in shining armor and sweep her off her feet and rescue her from that evil...evil... toad of a boyfriend!!! rah!rah! i'm cheering for you!! go! go! go!

13. Women have weird ways but this could be her first true love or first really intimate relationship but as time passes she'll come to her senses you just have to wait for it woman look deeper than whats on the surface they know all the bad points of their bf but we see past that we only want to see the good in them that no one else can see but soon she'll see the bad points and end it i hope. Well i hope i helped!!!!!

14. After reading your posting...twice...perhaps you might want to look at why you're putting so much drama into someone who is in a relationship with someone else. Most of what you've written is about what is wrong with both of them. What are you getting out of this? Whatever is going on in their relationship is their business unless it is a violence issue. I would agree that a controlling relationship isn't healthy. Unfortunately, some women confuse "controlling" with "caring." Be a good friend...let her know what you see...and then back off. If she decides this isn't what she wants one day...having a friend with less emotional investment might be what she will seek. ...BTW...I am a therapist.

15. She is now in what we call ' no way of turning back' position. She's into it and she has to cope with that. She obviously love the guy, tho she hates what's his doing. There's a saying that ... once a bucket gets filled... it will spill surely and wait for that time. Patience. Show how gentleman you are. Let her know what you feel about her and after that, leave them alone. Try to avoid their way, so to avoid any collission next time and she will probably notice that. Maybe with that, she will realize that she is begining to miss you. At the right time .... she will probably comes to you naturally. Just wait.