How do you choose between two people that love you? I broke off a relationship of 5 years and started a new one with a long time friend, now the person that i was with before for 5 years wants me back. Now the other doesnt want to let me go either. Im stuck in a place that ive never been, how do i decide who to choose? both relationships have had ups and downs and both people seem to want the same out of me which is a future.
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1. 3 hours ago
Broke up the 5 year relationship because of things that were said and done as in cheating and lying. The second relationship is to complicated because i feel that i cant understand the person at all and they really value friendships with their exes.
2. neither. break up and remain friends with the one, and find someone new to date. both of those guys don't sound like "future" material.
3. Your going to have to write the pros an cons of each guy an find out which will benifit you more. So now, answer my question
4. wow- how fortunate.
i would say to stick with the one you've got. the other one had his chance and things didnt work out when you were together for a reason. i have always found that dating a longtime friend usually works out better- it's bittersweet
5. This is a decision only you can make. But do it quickly so you stop leading the other guy on.
6. tell the fist one they had their chance
7. yes been there.. but i was with the other guy 3 years not 5. i went back to him because i got pregnant with his child. but i love him and couldnt be happier.
8. so why did you and the first of 5 yrs split neway? why did you and longtime friend get together? you need to sit and think write things out if need be and figure what you want in life for you with out them and then with them.
9. choose the guy who you think you love the most.......
10. Stick to what u know who makes u happy. Who would rather you be happy and stick to the guy you want instead of being like pick me. I haven't been in alot of relationships but i know from experience from my older friends and they have said when your stuck in the middle, follow ur heart
good luck
- sarah
11. I haven't been in this situation either...but I would say, stick with the one you have. YOU broke it off with the other guy for a reason...right??? Just keep moving forward.
12. the best looking..joking!! follow ur hearth..since i don't know any of the guys...my advice would be useless..however whichever you know will not hurt u in the future, i say choose him.
13. Choose with your heart--go with it, and pray always.
14. do what makes u happy.
but if i was u still with who you are with now. the other guy had his chance. and now that your happy. he need to just let you be happy.
15. 1) Why did you break up with #1 and has it been really repaired?
2) What is the potential problems with #2?
16. ok i have been in a similar situation and you know who you have to choose the guy that you are with because if that guy seriously loves why did he wait for 5 years what has changed, and i know this feeling when you want to return back to your ex because maybe he understands you more or for many other reasons but the only one thing you should focused on is that if he loves why did he come after 5 years and expects that you take him back so i think you should stay with your bf that you are with now and forget about that guy and be happy that he wants you back but he can't get you.
17. It's obvious, if you broke up with someone then something didn't go out well.. Sure you could get back together but that five year gap sorta puts it down.. If you are already going with someone why make it bad and go for the other? If you plan on doing that everything will just end up in a dramatic train wreck..
18. I've been in the exact situation. GO WITH YOUR HEART!!! I didn't, because I didn't want to hurt the one I was with even though I never stopped loving my first love. It kind of sounds like you are unsure about either one though. Why not stop wasting time and find the one who is meant for you?
19. Who do you love? Which pro's & con's are the best/worst. What would you require to make your life prosperous.? Which one has the capabilities to provide you with that?. Whohas the best genetic features if you are looking to have children? Who do you want to pro-create with, if that is an issue? Why did not the previous long-term man marry you? Is he having second thoughts or jealous, now that you are involved with someone else.. It's all about you...not them!
20. if you don't even know which one you like the most, then don't date either of them seriously, just be friends with both, and continue to go on dates, and as you ask more questions that are important like, whats important to them, and why should you date them, you will distinguish which one is more worth your time and heart. (read "i kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris it will help you figure out all sorts of stuff!!!)Goodluck!
21. be wit whom u like any as the first one has come first in life prefer her bii
22. 1>The first one , which had left you, had tesed the market and now is coming back. What makes you think , that she might not leave you again ?
2> The second one , had been loyal to you ( since no 1 re- applied ) you start to compare with the current one, which is not fair. If No 1 had disappeared , would you compare?
Since now you have an option, you want to evaluate and crack your head. Why ? - you shouldn't be shelfish.
3> What would you do if another No 3 applies. you want to compare ? Then, this is greedy.
4> Be a gentleman , stick to No 2 and move on - good luck !!!!!!!
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