We have been on and off for two years ,but more recently the past three months we have gotten way more serious than ever. Before he was so shy and indecisive. In the past I was always the one that knew what I wanted ,but I've changed alot in the past two years. I've dated other guys ,and my eyes have opened up to alot of things. He is ready to be with me forever ,and I love him ,but I am afraid. I don't know why I am afraid. Why have I changed so much. Does it have to do with that I am four years younger than him? I was fourteen when I met him ,and he was eighteen. Now I am sixteen ,and I don't know what to do. I want to be with him because I do love him. He's always been my comfort blanket. Of all the guys that have said they love me I personally believe that he is the only one that has actually proved it and shown his quality. He loves whole heartedly. I have loved like that. I do love him ,but it's not like the way I loved my first love. What do I do?
Answers:
1. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. Even though love knows know age, I do believe you've got plenty of time to make the decision. My fiance and I are 3 years apart, im 19 and he's 21 (he'll be 22 in march) Him and I broke up once for about a month and that was enough for us to see that we were meant to be together. Right now if you don't feel like he might be the one maybe you should take a bit of a break and date other guys, I'm not saying go sleep with every guy you see I'm saying go on some dates with guys you like. I would say wait until you are 18 to make the big decision because that would be two more years, but if you don't want to wait that long and want to know if he's the one now then dating other guys would be your best choice, could you be without him? Do you see yourself with him in your future? You have to ask yourself all of these questions. Goodluck
2. You are scared of marrying him, right? beleive in your guts dear, I was at your age when I first wanted to get married but dont jump into marriage right away or you might end up in divorce or misery, I know you love him and he loves you but give yourself more time to mature, you can be together and enjoy life for now but if he really loves you he will wait. - Wait until you have decided out of your own free will, in mind and heart that you are ready, without any regrets or fear that you wanted to be with this man for the rest of your life
3. You will never love anyone the way you loved your first love because you learn from the past and can never have that innocence of first love again
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