Am i wrong for not trusting my fiances family. When i started dating my fiance his family did not approve. One reason being im older than him by 3 years another being im hispanic (hes caucasian). I met them once and they judged me withouth even giving me a chance. It was so bad to the point when he decided to move out with me they stopped speaking to him for more than a year. Now im pregnant almost due to have my baby and they did a whole turn around. I cant seem to get over the fact of how they acted towards him cause he chose to be with me. Shoul i just get over it and start over?
Answers:
1. It is very wrong what they did, but give them another shot and see how it works out. People arent always perfect and we all make mistakes
2. You should probably just get over it. It's not a good idea to bring a baby into a family that is having problems from the start. You can try to resolve it now but eventually you should just drop it. They too will probably change and accept your relationship completely over time.
3. They did act wrongly, and you are right to feel upset with them. However, if they are honestly trying to make an effort to do the right thing now, I say give them a chance. Often when parents don't approve of a match, they can be real pains in the you-know-what about it, but once they realize that their kid's girlfriend or boyfriend is going to be the mother of their grandchildren, they let go of their stubborness and get over it. I think this is what happened in your situation.
There's no need of having bad blood between you, and this could be a great opportunity for you and them to start over. Proceed cautiously, but do give them the benefit of a doubt. If you can work out your differences, it will be better for everyone involved.
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