How exactly does this work? I think I remember that the groom kneels down in front of the bride while she is sitting down. He then proceeds to lift up her dress up to her thighs. He then takes the garter belt off. Then he tosses it to the men attending the wedding. The first one to catch it is presumed to get married next. Is this how it works? Did I miss anything?
Is this a common practice?
The problem is my friend is getting married in April. She is wondering if she is supposed to do this traditional gesture. However, she is worried because she is about 75 lbs. overweight and that makes her feel self conscience. She is worried that she will not look sexy doing that in front of all the guests. What do you guys think? Should she skip it? Has any bride out there been in such a predicament?
She is very concerned about being overweight at her wedding but this in particular makes her feel very self-conscience.
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Thank you.
Answers:
1. Go to the gym with her for the next while , convince her to lose weight. Yes , customary to remove garter, with teeth is always fun, then toss to the men.
2. First of all, it is not a garter "belt" which is work around the waist and has clips/fasteners to hold up stockings. It is just a garter. If they want to do that, and she is wearing a long gown, she can just wear the garter just above her ankle. Then the groom would only lift the dress slightly to get to the garter.
3. Well instead of her new husband lifting the dress completely up, how about he go up the dress. At my wedding my husband left my dress down and went underneath it and took it off. That way no one can see her bottom half and she can still have this fun tradition.
4. My brother-in-law just got married last week and he did it at his wedding. For my wedding I didn't do it. So let the bride decide.
5. A lot of people have an "auction" during the wedding dance. If a guy pays a dollar, the groom moves it further down. If a girl pays, it gets moved back up. The guests will have a competition to see who wins and the bride and groom get to keep the money for their honeymoon. This is her special day, so if she doesn't feel comfortable then don't do it. She deserves to feel beautiful and there are plenty of other traditions. If she doesn't want people seeing her legs and thighs, just toss the bouquet.
6. In the 1990's, less than 1 in 10 people were considered greater than 30 pounds overweight.
In 2006 about 1 in 4 people are considered greater than 30 lbs overweight. (Source cited below).
My point is: does it really matter what others think? He obviously loves her. And BBW (Big Beautiful Women) are some of the hottest things going on the internet.
As far as I know, the tradition of the garter still goes on. It just a little harmless "guy fun" that even Grandpas will get into by cheering on the newlywed boy.
Tell you what, have her email me a picture of her leg and I'll let her know how it looks ;-)
7. I've seen plenty of hefty women toss garters. It's one of those things that happens at weddings. If she's self-conscious, then she should stop eating doughnuts and start hitting the gym.
The more important ritual to be clear on is that the sex, especially anything the husband enjoys, must cease by the third sundown after the ceremony night is over. I believe that ritual is called consummaruinitformen.
8. Yes it is a tradition. the bride throws the bouqet and the groom takes off the blue garter belt and throws it to the guys. Now the belt can be just above the knee and she does not have to sit down. she can be standing. She should have on something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.. this is the traditional wedding and where the garter belt came from. It is usually called the new thing and it is usually blue.
She will not be showing much of herself if she has the belt just above her knee and he only pulls the dress up to the one leg to see. You really cannot see that much of her leg then anyway.
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