Im really shy. Trust me, like super super super shy. I have like only 3 friends. I mean I look fine, people tell me im very pretty but I just am so shy I cant talk to people! Can anyone help me over come this. Dont just say be yourself because that doesnt help me too much starting off. I need to learn to talk with people. Thanks :)
Answers:
1. If you have a good sense of humor you can use that to help conquer your shyness. I was the same way in high school and slowly come out of my shell each year completely by senior year.
2. Just be friendly. When you have eye contact with someone in talking distance say "hi" it really changes things. You didn't talk with the person but now that person things your his/her friend. Its what I used to do and it really comes in handy to have a lot of friends. I got to ask favors from people that I never even talked to only just said hi to them.
3. Practice good eye contact and a strong assertive voice. Try your hardest to say hi to people and smile...don't give off the air that you are a loner. Participate in class, when its helpful and adds to the discussion. And not that I want you to be an attention whore because people hate that...
Just try to meet people half-way so to speak. And Fake it till you make it! *i don't mean be fake, but just don't look nervous...you know what I mean*
And by all means be yourself...lol...
4. Don't be too shy. That Makes you have few friends and Just pray & have faith in God. Or Maybe Your "Guardian Angel" or your Holy Spirit will help you. And a piece of Advice, Be proud but not too much. You'll be boastful cause of that. Have a nice school days! ):
5. I was the queen of super shy in high school. Then 12yrs later I can speak my mind and not care. I think a lot of it has to do with insecurities. Looking back on high school I have no idea why I didn't just talk...like everyone else. I would start talking to other shy people...hey...they're probably just as shy as you....maybe more. Gradually work your way up to the more popular kids......Good luck kid!
6. the answer is to be more social.
don't be afraid to start conversations with people around you in class. they probably want to know get to know you too.
even if they just sit next to you and never talk to you, just greet them everyday. i used to be shy, but then i decided to become more social, despite everything.
really just go ahead and do what you really want to do, no one will judge you, and if they do then you can just take it to target.
7. Practice talking to people outside of school. Go to the mall and stay talking to those stupid people who try to get you to buy cell phones. If you start to get nervous then you just walk away, they wont chase you. What you need to do is have the "I don't care" mentality. Its good to express what you feel, exactly when you feel it. People also tend to not talk to shy people because they think they are stuck up and unfriendly (which in many situations isnt the case). So, try to smile more so you can look more approachable. High school sucks because everyone is so critical of everything and everyone. I'm tellin ya once high school is over no one is going to care anymore, might as well start now. Its difficult at first but it gets easier just making small talk. Even if its something so uninteresting to you, find something to ask someone about and just go from there, it'll lead to more conversations in the future.
8. hehe i know what u mean
i am really shy when it comes to meeting new people
like, after i graduated, i ended up going to clark magnet, and all my friends went to glendale high
freshman year is always like "hey where are all my old friends from jr. high go?"
but don't worry, i am sure your a really sweet person, you'll make alot of new friends this year :)
i suggest maybe joining a club, like art or cheerleading, or get involved with activities at school
that way you can meet new people that have the same interests as you do ;)
like, i just signed up for photography and i cant wait to get started on it, even though i've never done it before
but just have fun and you never know who you'll meet ;)
9. I have been through this so I know what helps. Shyness is sort of a fear of interaction with people. The only way to overcome this is to put yourself in a social environment. Try to get a job where you have to deal with the public. You can also volunteer for other responsibilities also. Any change requires effort and shyness is definitely no exception.
10. talk talk talk i was shy but u get over it a easy place to get loud is gymm class ur out side yell hang
11. Hi!
I'm wondering why you are a shy type person. but my best advice to you is that, try to grab opportunities which can help you not to be shy. This starts within yourself and only you can change this.
GOD BLESS
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