During work a customer will tell me" "oh, you'll be married soon, and won't have to work your retail job anymore." Another family I was a nanny to the mother said: "You'll find a good guy soon, and marry..." And then another lady at the bookstore told me that I'll have a family someday and marry.
People these are total strangers telling me what I'll be having with love and family. I think it's nice, but why do total strangers tell me this from no where. I don't bring up the subject. They always do! I keep business with business, and then these women start saying this.
Sorry to say only God knows my future not some women saying this. I am 42 not married, and no kids. Who are these weirdos predicting my future, and I am not even seeking them out?
Answers:
1. no clue...sorry...maybe their phsycics...haha idk
2. You are a kind and a responsible person, they saw that and it made them think that you deserve to have a family of your own
3. They either want you to have the same wonderful marriage that they have- or wishing you the same misery that they have.
Don't worry about them. Live your life. If you are concerned or upset about life- then it is their issue.
Perhaps get a fake ring.....
4. Well they probably are saying this to you because you are 42 and a lot of people are already married by then and they probably think you should be too and some may feel that you wish you were and are telling you what they think you want to here.
People do not mean to be unkind or nosy but they tend to do so.
5. A lot of people don't know how to mind their own business and they are always trying to force their own beliefs on other people. They just see getting married as something that you're supposed to do and they obviously don't get that you can be single and happy.
6. WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK???Look being married is not that great. I thought I had a faithful husband but, one day found out he had a girlfriend. He called her HOT. A word he never ever called me. I would never take me out dancing but, he took her. Is this what you want. Don't waste your time. Your mister right will come when you stop caring and when he does ask if he has a brother for me okay. Lots of love.
7. hmm, maybe God is sending those women out to tell u that ull have a family one day? what religion r u? im a Jehovah Witness, and yep, i have had my prayers answered! if u want to talk more about this subject (cuz i am a strong believer in religion) then email me at conan_edogawa24@yahoo.com. ill do the best i can to help ya! i promise! :o)
8. They say this because they are rude and think it is their business which it is not. Tell them mind their own business.
9. 42!?? Dam that's old. But anyway there just trying to be nice don't mind it.
10. You're 42, never married and no kids! They're just trying to be nice and give you hope! If you don't want to hear it just tell you're gay!
11. They are only trying to give you hope...Wear a band on your finger and these strangers will leave you alone...
12. its ok you'll be married soon lol. I know I get that too. I think married women always beleive thats what everyone whats to hear
13. A lot of older and/or married "traditional" women do that a lot. They believe that every woman wants to be married and have a family so when you're 42 and don't have one, they feel obligated to reassure and pacify you.
14. maybe they have said it alot in your life, and didn't pay attention, and now.. they are starting to trouble you, maybe you want to be married, and want to have children, but don't think it will happen for you, trust me it can happen, and if this isn't the case, then just ignore them, or tell them that you're not interested in a husband, and they won't bug you anymore lol
Hope I helped somehow,
Russell J. Crevatas
15. cause people put marriage and family as a goal in life.
i do too. i wouldn't randomly say that about others...
but maybe they find is weird that a 42 yr old is nt yet married, and so assuming it will happen soon (cause it needs to happen sometime - by their belief i think)
I've been told that many times too and im barley 19!!!
16. This is simply a case of social norms at play. You're a 42 year old unmarried, childless woman. OH MY GOSH, SHE NEEDS A MAN - AND HER BIO CLOCK IS TICKING, radda radda radda!!! hahaha.
People are quite narrow minded with what is the right sequence of things in life....don't worry about them, just laugh it off, and continue to be amused by their naivety.
If only it were true that getting married and having kids would make it all better :p
17. I'd like to think that God sends his little angles to speak to us when we don't listen to him on our own. I'd also like to think that there are people in this life that can tell us something that we need to prepare for in life. So you are 42 and not married with no kids who's to say that it won't happen. If all of these people are saying it maybe something great is about to happen to you in your life..GET READY for it. After all of that pray as seek the true knowledge from God himself.
18. Honestly, I have no idea why. My mother would say things like that to younger ladies to make them "feel good about themselves". Not sure what she meant by that. She actually said that to a lady I worked with. Shelly didn't want to have kids and enjoyed being single. My mom didn't understand this when she told her,"don't worry, you will find the right guy soon and you can always adopt."
19. They are brought up with the notion that every woman's dream is to have a husband, 1.5 kids, and a career. They just can't fathom that you may actually be satisfied with your current lifestyle. Just be polite, listen, and forget it.
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Secondly to David V, do you even know which country's stats I am quoting?
20. I don't think their trying to predict your future. Sounds to me like they are just trying to compliment you and say you are a nice person.
21. first off to Linni.... it is 2.4 kids and a house with a picket fence...if you are going to quote statistics at least get them right.
SORRY... as for your question I can only make an assumption but I'm sure it is pretty close to the mark. I would say judging by the comments that you are getting you are A. an attractive woman and B. have a very good personalty.... usually when people say to a woman that she will be married soon it is mainly for these 2 reasons.
22. I know...I come from a Greek heritage and I can say that has traditional expectations placed upon a gal...you know...the supermom type that bakes and cooks and works and and and...expectations.
You can't change their thinking ...it's a group thing...lol
Don't worry about it and dwell on it, thus waste your precious energy away from your own goals.
Word of advice...just continue what your doing...smile! Confronting them is not going to make matters better...besides, you don't want to put their choices for womanhood down....
Instead, be yourself, an individual, focus on your future and your own goals and show that you don't need to fall into that gender role...not for others..but for yourself.
Smile...you're a woman with tons of choices in this day and age!!
Enjoy!
23. Hey.... I think you will be married! LOL
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