OK I have been dating this guy for over 3 years and I love him so much.. but when we first started dating he was so hot I was so attracted to him. He is 5'10" and wasnt skinny but just had the right amount of meat on him. Now three years later he weighs 270. He has stretch mark all over his body and I find that not very attractive who would. He also sweats alot more because of the weight and walks around in his boxers just like he use to but now its just different.
I find other things attractive about him though like his eyes, tan skin, dark hair, his shoulders, lips, nose, and eyebrows yes I know I'm weird.
But now when I'm around other guy that are thin I find them soo attractive and before I wouldnt care at all.
My bf says that he loves me with all his heart and wouldnt care if I weighed 300 pounds that he would still love me.
I love him sooo much and he has such a great personality. I am 5'2" and weigh 127 and trying to loose weight
SO whats wrong with me? Is this norma
Answers:
1. yeah it is a bit shallow...but he owes it to YOU to lose some weight...I am 240 and I am trying to get to MY wedding night weight of 200...it is the least i can do for my wife..
2. Nothing's wrong with you, and yes, it's normal, in that sex is part of a couple's life, and if one of the couple becomes unattractive over time, there is no way to restore it. His saying if you were 300# he'd love you regardless is his hope you'll remain attracted. Yes, you love him, as a person. That doesn't mean you want to make love with him, nor that your love for him as a person has lessened. And no, you're not weird for loving all the details about him, not at all. You're just trying to accentuate the positive. This is hard. I wish you strength and luck.
3. Marriage is no joke. And that is most likely the next step. I feel sorry for the big guy but at the end of the day. Do you want to be married to someone who you are not attracted to. If it bothers you now it will most likely bother you more later.
However on the other side, there is more to life that just looks and your looks will fade too. Whether you like it or not... it is just reality. Looking for a guy who will add well is not a bad idea but considering the full situation, go with someone you love. Sorry for giving both my answer both ways.
4. I don't think it's shallow, I think it's biology. We're all attracted to various things, and on the flipside... most guys won't date someone that's over 200lbs. Tell him to lose weight, if he values his health he will... if he doesn't then you have your answer.
5. If you're 5'2" and 127 lbs you don't really need to be trying to lose weight. That sounds like a perfectly healthy body weight for someone of your height. Encourage your boyfriend to lose weight for HIS HEALTH - it's not about glamour, it's about being healthy and taking care of your body. Tell him you want to make sure he stays as healthy as he can. He owes that to you.
6. work out together and no i dont think ur shallow, looks do matter. no matter what anyone says, personality and looks go hand and hand. when u first see a person no one in whole world says " wow check out her personality", lol u know? so yea just be positive and just work out with him, watch his food intake, get a hobbie together or sumthing together.
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