Skinny girl with VERY fat man?

1. i think the way you named your question says it all...

2. Tell him you don't date people you feel sorry for. You date people because you want to be with them.

3. fat and skinny went to bed....fat rolled over and skinny was dead!

4. guys tend to worry more about that stuff...my bf always asks me why I am with him, because he thinks I am so much smarter than he is....sometimes you just need to tell them, i love you for you, that is why I am here...its not only the girls who need encouragement.

5. He's looking for reassurance.

6. love is blind.

7. My BF is chubby and he's Great.... I say stay with him.... he's just really surprised to be with you cos you're real pretty or something... (My BF tells me I'm so pretty all the time and says he feels lucky everyday)so just reassure him and both of you should be happy

8. imo he needs reassurance he might just have been feeling a bit insecure at the time from influences of prior events

9. if u like him for him then u should stay with him, it matters on what u see in him. You didnt misjudge him maybe he just got the wrong idea and took it a different way, they do that a lot. If u really like him than sty but if u dont see any future with this guy than just simply move on

10. He is being weak. Don't let him influence you as you check your own emotions. If you want to pull through with the guy, then talk to him. Tell him that there are better ways of getting reassurance. Stick with him if you feel he is right. Bed is a strange kingdom: all barriers fall, all masks fall.

11. Being overweight can definately make a person's self-confidence take a dive because not everyone is accepting as you. Most of the time, overweight people expierence predjuice people and it makes them feel very bad. He might think that "You're too good to be true. There's gotta be a catch somewhere." Just reassure him.

12. Yes tell him you love him for who he is and if he wants something else he should just look for someone else. He probably expected you to have sex with him and you didnt soo he tought you were just teasing him, but then again you said two months right? Well maybe he wants this relationship to move on up to the next step.

13. people sometimes who are insecure of themself and are with people a lil more better looking or w/e always wonder why. and if you really like him then tell him that him looking like that doesnt matter. but if you wont, dont be around any longer because you will hurt him and you

14. ~You're a real good person. You'll date anyone no matter what, as long as they are a good connection for you. He seems to have this idea that he can't get a thin girl because of his weight. He doesn't realize that he has you. Since he seems to have no self-confidence, i'd suggest you cut your losses and find another man who is more sure of himself.

15. Work through it with him. He's feeling very insecure since he's having a slim and pretty girl by his side...this is normal. Lets say if you're the one fatter than your really thin looking BF you'll feel the same too. Assure him that you love him for who he is and always reminds him of that to built his confidence. Or why not coax him into exercising not for looks but for health reasons too? Gud luck!

16. He may feel like, being with you, he's out of his league. That he needs to slap himself and wake up from the mirage. I have felt that way before. Unfortunately, I kind of made my date feel awkward and guilt-ridden, even though I liked her. I was insecure. Hope that helps some.

17. You'll be fine. Only begin to worry if he starts trying to base you.........

18. He's just feeling insecure... u need to let him know that ur happy being with him and most importantly not only that his weight doesnt bother u but u are very much so attracted to him... he'll be aight.

19. Hummmm. You have a `big' man with not so `big' heart. Is he a doubting Thomas? Please tell him that you are too sincere in your love and passion for him and the proof thereof is your readiness to share his bed. Ask him to put his cards on the table and then you can decide whether to continue the game or not. Best of luck either way!

20. Right now he is feeling very insecure. He probably sees you as a beautiful person and can't help wonder what you're doing with a person like him even though you find him attractive. He sounds like he has self esteem issues and maybe he isn't used to having a female pay him that much attention. He could have been hurt by someone in his past that used him and thats why he's having trust issues. You will never know unless you talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you enjoy him and that you are attracted to him for who he is and not how he looks. If you leave him alone now, he's going to think that you've been misleading him all along and then he will never be able to trust again. If you can't take the situation then let him down easy because whoever hurt him in the past has him dealing with trust and security issues already and you don't want to add to that.

21. i think you should tell him what you said in your question "I feel very hurt about this because I feel that I am not a shallow person, and am geniunly attracted to him. I feel like I was wrong about how well we have been connecting this whole time. I am worried that I have misjudged him as much as he has misjudged me, and may not be the man I thought he was" he maybe has bad self esteem, and needs some lovin...maybe he cant believe he found someone who likes him and is doubting himself. maybe he is scared you will leave him so hes trying to disattach now, make sure he knows you dont care what anyone thinks and that he makes you happy, maybe if wieght is the only problem you guys can join a gym together for something to do and feel good together, maybe let him know some of your insecurities so he doesnt feel imperfect, good luck

22. guys are just (if not more) insecure about their looks than us girls but they dont know how to express it. girls say 'do i look fat in this' and can talk to their friends about it or have a 'fat' day. guys tend to beat themselves up about it or transfer their feelings onto their girlfriends. my guess is that your partner is probably insecure and needs to be reassured because you may be the first skinny girl to go out with him or he may have been hurt before and feels now that he can kinda open up to you about his insecurities (he needs to learn how though). my advice talk to him about it and reassure him that you are with him because you find him attractive as an entire package, however, if his low self esteem starts to effect the way you feel about yourself and who you are as a person then i would get out as soon as possible.

23. Sounds like he's insecure about his looks. He may be opening himself to you. I do think he went overboard by accusing you of being dishonest. Based on the fact that things have been fine up until now give him another chance.

24. It obvious your hot, and he is insecure, about his looks. Try and reassure him. Tell him why you love him that might work.

25. I think both of you should work your insecurities. Him of not loving himself as much as accepting someone likes him. And you for FIRST and foremost talking about how hes big.. see the first line of your question. People don't make us happy WE make ourselves happy. I hope you get your stuff together (both of you) and work your things out. If your happy with each other it only matters what happens between the two of you, and if you love each other you ll work things out. Best wishes.

26. I don’t know how long you have actually known him besides the two months of dating, but if you want things to work out, you have to be honest and ask him to be honest too. Unless he has lots of $$$$, is obvious that you are with him because you like him, and that being fat has nothing to do with anything. You should tell him that you love him because of who he is, and in any case, you would like for him to loose some weight only for his health as we all know what happens when you are fat (heart problems, respiratory problems, etc, etc). Is obvious too that he has some issues with his own weight, and if you do love him and care about him, then you should help him out. Of course, is up to him to accept help and accept reality itself, or to stay living a lie and traumatized. If you don’t think you have strong enough feelings for him, save yourself from lots of headaches and get out now. Otherwise, this could be a good test for your love, courage and strength. Good luck.

27. What I want to know is how you two hooked up. I'm rather large myself and I can't get a girl to save my life. If I had a girl like you, I would be worried that I was being played too, cuz why would a girl like you be into a guy like me? When it comes to looks, guys can be just as hung up on their own as on the girl. Big guys need lovin' too.

28. tell him how ya feel then ask if he wants to be w/ya because you do 1)if he wants out it gives him the opportunity 2)if not he will know you really do care 3)he may have the (she's to good 4 me )syndrome , do something personal 4 him ,dinner ,gift an afternoon drive then he should get the hint-----if not back off & be friends!

29. he just needs reassurance, I'm not the thinnest guy either but I talk to allot of really nice looking girls. his confidence is low and he is just a little insecure about his weight. I asked my girlfriend that a long time ago, and she looked at me like I was stupid for even thinking that. and I've never asked anyone that question again. I don't think he is crazy unless he asks you every night then that might be a little too much. just tell him how you feel and look him in the eyes. he's just worried that a beautiful girl such as yourself really cares about him and that some "romeo" is not gonna take you from him. but if he is trying to make you feel sorry for him than that's not good, but I would say to sit down and have a talk b/c without words there is no communication. find out how he feels and what he is thinking. and him why he would say that that. He is just insecure and I can assure you of that.

30. its what inside that counts. dont listen to other people, listen to your heart

31. i think the way you named your question says it all...

32. Tell him you don't date people you feel sorry for. You date people because you want to be with them.

33. fat and skinny went to bed....fat rolled over and skinny was dead!

34. guys tend to worry more about that stuff...my bf always asks me why I am with him, because he thinks I am so much smarter than he is....sometimes you just need to tell them, i love you for you, that is why I am here...its not only the girls who need encouragement.

35. He's looking for reassurance.

36. love is blind.

37. My BF is chubby and he's Great.... I say stay with him.... he's just really surprised to be with you cos you're real pretty or something... (My BF tells me I'm so pretty all the time and says he feels lucky everyday)so just reassure him and both of you should be happy

38. imo he needs reassurance he might just have been feeling a bit insecure at the time from influences of prior events

39. if u like him for him then u should stay with him, it matters on what u see in him. You didnt misjudge him maybe he just got the wrong idea and took it a different way, they do that a lot. If u really like him than sty but if u dont see any future with this guy than just simply move on

40. He is being weak. Don't let him influence you as you check your own emotions. If you want to pull through with the guy, then talk to him. Tell him that there are better ways of getting reassurance. Stick with him if you feel he is right. Bed is a strange kingdom: all barriers fall, all masks fall.

41. Being overweight can definately make a person's self-confidence take a dive because not everyone is accepting as you. Most of the time, overweight people expierence predjuice people and it makes them feel very bad. He might think that "You're too good to be true. There's gotta be a catch somewhere." Just reassure him.

42. Yes tell him you love him for who he is and if he wants something else he should just look for someone else. He probably expected you to have sex with him and you didnt soo he tought you were just teasing him, but then again you said two months right? Well maybe he wants this relationship to move on up to the next step.

43. people sometimes who are insecure of themself and are with people a lil more better looking or w/e always wonder why. and if you really like him then tell him that him looking like that doesnt matter. but if you wont, dont be around any longer because you will hurt him and you

44. ~You're a real good person. You'll date anyone no matter what, as long as they are a good connection for you. He seems to have this idea that he can't get a thin girl because of his weight. He doesn't realize that he has you. Since he seems to have no self-confidence, i'd suggest you cut your losses and find another man who is more sure of himself.

45. Work through it with him. He's feeling very insecure since he's having a slim and pretty girl by his side...this is normal. Lets say if you're the one fatter than your really thin looking BF you'll feel the same too. Assure him that you love him for who he is and always reminds him of that to built his confidence. Or why not coax him into exercising not for looks but for health reasons too? Gud luck!

46. He may feel like, being with you, he's out of his league. That he needs to slap himself and wake up from the mirage. I have felt that way before. Unfortunately, I kind of made my date feel awkward and guilt-ridden, even though I liked her. I was insecure. Hope that helps some.

47. You'll be fine. Only begin to worry if he starts trying to base you.........

48. He's just feeling insecure... u need to let him know that ur happy being with him and most importantly not only that his weight doesnt bother u but u are very much so attracted to him... he'll be aight.

49. Hummmm. You have a `big' man with not so `big' heart. Is he a doubting Thomas? Please tell him that you are too sincere in your love and passion for him and the proof thereof is your readiness to share his bed. Ask him to put his cards on the table and then you can decide whether to continue the game or not. Best of luck either way!

50. Right now he is feeling very insecure. He probably sees you as a beautiful person and can't help wonder what you're doing with a person like him even though you find him attractive. He sounds like he has self esteem issues and maybe he isn't used to having a female pay him that much attention. He could have been hurt by someone in his past that used him and thats why he's having trust issues. You will never know unless you talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you enjoy him and that you are attracted to him for who he is and not how he looks. If you leave him alone now, he's going to think that you've been misleading him all along and then he will never be able to trust again. If you can't take the situation then let him down easy because whoever hurt him in the past has him dealing with trust and security issues already and you don't want to add to that.

51. i think you should tell him what you said in your question "I feel very hurt about this because I feel that I am not a shallow person, and am geniunly attracted to him. I feel like I was wrong about how well we have been connecting this whole time. I am worried that I have misjudged him as much as he has misjudged me, and may not be the man I thought he was" he maybe has bad self esteem, and needs some lovin...maybe he cant believe he found someone who likes him and is doubting himself. maybe he is scared you will leave him so hes trying to disattach now, make sure he knows you dont care what anyone thinks and that he makes you happy, maybe if wieght is the only problem you guys can join a gym together for something to do and feel good together, maybe let him know some of your insecurities so he doesnt feel imperfect, good luck

52. guys are just (if not more) insecure about their looks than us girls but they dont know how to express it. girls say 'do i look fat in this' and can talk to their friends about it or have a 'fat' day. guys tend to beat themselves up about it or transfer their feelings onto their girlfriends. my guess is that your partner is probably insecure and needs to be reassured because you may be the first skinny girl to go out with him or he may have been hurt before and feels now that he can kinda open up to you about his insecurities (he needs to learn how though). my advice talk to him about it and reassure him that you are with him because you find him attractive as an entire package, however, if his low self esteem starts to effect the way you feel about yourself and who you are as a person then i would get out as soon as possible.

53. Sounds like he's insecure about his looks. He may be opening himself to you. I do think he went overboard by accusing you of being dishonest. Based on the fact that things have been fine up until now give him another chance.

54. It obvious your hot, and he is insecure, about his looks. Try and reassure him. Tell him why you love him that might work.

55. I think both of you should work your insecurities. Him of not loving himself as much as accepting someone likes him. And you for FIRST and foremost talking about how hes big.. see the first line of your question. People don't make us happy WE make ourselves happy. I hope you get your stuff together (both of you) and work your things out. If your happy with each other it only matters what happens between the two of you, and if you love each other you ll work things out. Best wishes.

56. I don’t know how long you have actually known him besides the two months of dating, but if you want things to work out, you have to be honest and ask him to be honest too. Unless he has lots of $$$$, is obvious that you are with him because you like him, and that being fat has nothing to do with anything. You should tell him that you love him because of who he is, and in any case, you would like for him to loose some weight only for his health as we all know what happens when you are fat (heart problems, respiratory problems, etc, etc). Is obvious too that he has some issues with his own weight, and if you do love him and care about him, then you should help him out. Of course, is up to him to accept help and accept reality itself, or to stay living a lie and traumatized. If you don’t think you have strong enough feelings for him, save yourself from lots of headaches and get out now. Otherwise, this could be a good test for your love, courage and strength. Good luck.

57. What I want to know is how you two hooked up. I'm rather large myself and I can't get a girl to save my life. If I had a girl like you, I would be worried that I was being played too, cuz why would a girl like you be into a guy like me? When it comes to looks, guys can be just as hung up on their own as on the girl. Big guys need lovin' too.

58. tell him how ya feel then ask if he wants to be w/ya because you do 1)if he wants out it gives him the opportunity 2)if not he will know you really do care 3)he may have the (she's to good 4 me )syndrome , do something personal 4 him ,dinner ,gift an afternoon drive then he should get the hint-----if not back off & be friends!

59. he just needs reassurance, I'm not the thinnest guy either but I talk to allot of really nice looking girls. his confidence is low and he is just a little insecure about his weight. I asked my girlfriend that a long time ago, and she looked at me like I was stupid for even thinking that. and I've never asked anyone that question again. I don't think he is crazy unless he asks you every night then that might be a little too much. just tell him how you feel and look him in the eyes. he's just worried that a beautiful girl such as yourself really cares about him and that some "romeo" is not gonna take you from him. but if he is trying to make you feel sorry for him than that's not good, but I would say to sit down and have a talk b/c without words there is no communication. find out how he feels and what he is thinking. and him why he would say that that. He is just insecure and I can assure you of that.

60. its what inside that counts. dont listen to other people, listen to your heart