Whats wrong with my mom??

1. NOT Normal. She is very unhappy and it has nothing to do with you but you are getting the hurt by it simply because you are there. You can't make her happy- only she can do that and she might not be ready for happiness. She has a lot of trama going through her life and is not dealing with it well. It is not your fault. There is nothing that you can do to make her happy. All you can do is focus on making yourself happy. Be there when she needs you. Help out as much as possible, but don't make her problem yours. It is not acceptable for her to call you names. That could be verbal abuse. If it is not tolerable, then tell someone and live with a relative until she gets her life back together. If this is how she has always been then she will problemly not change. I know that you love her, but does she love herself? As a parent, I would never want my children to hear that from myself or anyone else! Best wishes.

2. I feel bad for you. No child should be treated like that. Is it possible for you to move out? Maybe to a relatives place for a little while? You shouldnt even be apologizing for being born!! It was no fault of yours. You didnt ask to be here. The problem is your mothers and hers alone!!! At the moment , I honestly dont believe anything will make her happy. But I still think you should look for somewhere else to live for a while. Good luck to you.

3. you have done nothing wrong! you never asked to be brought in to this world. your mom sounds depressed and needs to see some one. some medical help. i am sorry to hear what you are going through alone.

4. Don't be sorry for being born. Her number one problem is guilt. Deep down she feels guilty not only for cheating, but for cheating with his brother. She has a guilty conscience, because no mater how your dad treats her it is wrong. She is taking it out on you. She is ruining her own life not you. She has messed things up for herself not you. Try your hardest not to let her ruin your self esteem. One day she will realize that she is messing things up, and if not you will be 18 ( if not already ) and you will get to a point and not take her crap anymore. Don't let her make you hate your life. Someday you will find some one who will make you realize that you being born was a blessing. Stay strong

5. i know parents can sometimes be mean and seem like they don't care, but they do.when my mom got mad at me she called me stupid and all of that.the best thing to do is to keep away from her but still be polite and talk when she talks to you or make the first move. you could also try talking to her.parents sometimes act childish but i'm sure sooner or later your mom will relieze that she hasn't beed treating you right.well good luck and remember to keep what you have together.

6. no its not and dont beat yourself up and certainly dont believe what she tells you...sounds like she has a problem......

7. mein liepchen, if this is a real problem and im not trying to downplay it, please,please, go talk to a school counselor. a pastor or any other adult with commen sense. there could be any number of problems with your mom but one for sure is that she is not emotionally sound. without being a professional, i would tell you that she does not realize the bad feelings she is giving you. you are not useless or stupid. the best thing you can do is find help for yourself. please, go to your pastor, or any pastor at all. if you feel that you cant, plz write me. nothing seems normal about her behavior. i would so like to hear back from you. there is hope and help. hang in there. tajura001@yahoo.com. i will listen and try to help.

8. Oh hun, you did absolutly nothing wrong. It sounds like your mom has some mental problems. I grew up like that and my mom was always off like that and just always mad... it took her years to find out, but she was bipolar! She is just now since all of us kids have been out of the house, being treated for it. Regardless of what your mother tells you, you were not a mistake. Someone else has a reason for you being here. You may not find out what the reason is for a while, but you were not a mistake! No its not normal, its sad.

9. I hope your dad catches both of them together. Has anyone asked your mum whats wrong and why she is behaving like she is?She is mentally and emotionally abusing you. You have tried everything to make her happy, and its not working?I dont know how old you are? I would advise you to move in with one of your auntys until something is done about your mum. It is not normal behaviour, and it is bordering on abuse in a number of ways. Dont think about suicide, life is way too precious and way too short.

10. No it's not normal. For me to list all that is wrong with your mom would take too long to mention here, so I am not even going to try. I think what is more important is for me to try to help you understand that none of this is your fault. You can't make your mom happy because her happiness is entirely up to her. I am so sorry that you have a mother who has created an environment where her daughter would wish that she had never been born. That's just not fair. You aren't being fair to yourself either. By trying to make an unhappy person like your mother happy, you have placed an unrealistic burden on yourself. I hope you can find ways to turn your focus on your own happiness, & leave your mother to find her own. The best way to start is for you to see if there are councellors at your school, or at church. Or look up in your local telephone book, or on the internet for a kids crisis line, or kids help phone number. Your mom might feel justified in her bad behaviour, but there is no justification for her letting you feel that you are somehow responsible for any of her troubles, or her unhappiness. That is just wrong! Take care now!

11. She's a wacko. Legally emancipate yourself and go live with your aunts.

12. thats abnormal!Ur mom shouldn't do that to u.Well,sometimes my mom yells at me but not like that,i think u need to talk with ur mom,maybe about her problem or your problem,and maybe umust tell someone about it,maybe ur bestfriend,it will calm u.

13. Your family is your first set of challenges to overcome. All you can do is get through school and get the heck away from there. See if you can find a grandparent or aunt to stay with while you finish high school. Your mom is just plain messed up. Taking revenge for screwing around by screwing around is nuts. She's on drugs and alcohol. She doesn't respect herself so she can never respect anyone else.

14. You can't make her happy. You can't fix this because it isn't your fault. It is your mom's fault. So your dad is the way he is, her cheating with your uncle isn't going to help anything. She probably thinks it will, that shows you she isn't thinking straight. Or maybe she is just so selfish she doesn't care. She is the one who had the choice to get pregnant or not. She is the one who chose not to abort you. She made those choices that brought you into this world, so if your being born "messed things up for her" it is her fault, not yours. Has she ever thought about how her choices have affected you? You didn't have any choice in being born, she brought you into this situation. Has she thought about how her whining about the choices she made are messing things up for you? No. She is thinking only of herself. If you can go live with another family member, do it! When your dad finds out what is going on, you won't want to be there. Stay in school, do good in your life, you can overcome this and prove her wrong about all those mean things she has said.