My boyfriend and I got into a fight the other night and he asked me to leave his house. While he was waiting outside for me to gather my belongings I took a knife and cut a slit in all his clothes. Then after I left I keyed his car pretty bad. The next day when I was calm I immediately regretted my actions.
Although he handled this situation calmly he demanded I pay for everything. He said he would not call the police if I admitted to it and reimbursed him for the damages. My friends assure me that since he didn't see me key his car he can't prove it and can't get me in trouble for it.
Should I fess up and pay it all or just what he can prove? (BTW he's very picky about his car and will take it someplace expensive to get fixed...)
Also, why am I so psycho sometimes? He's never damaged anything of mine, it's just he can be such and a$$hole sometimes and makes me soooo mad..
Answers:
1. Are you bipolar?
2. Pay up. And yes, if you admitted to him, he can prove it. You can go to jail for lying to the police too. Be a big girl and pay up. Oh and go to Anger Management. You have some issues you need to handle.
3. Wow... Just wow
4. just chill...... and pay for the paint job to get the car fixed.... and do it when he doesn't know it
5. jeez was it really THAT bad of a fight to do that?!
6. I would suggest starting with throwing away the Carrie Underwood cd. Good luck to you!!!
7. just fess up pay for the the damage you caused and seek anger management
you really need to control you emotions!!!!
8. Maybe you can get him to take you to court on one of the many 'court tv' shows ... then you get a free trip and maybe some money to pay him back.
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http://peoplescourt.warnerbros.com/...
9. You vandalized the car and his other belongings, therefore, you should pay. The fact that it's probably going to cost you should be of little consequence since he could probably press charges against you.
As far as your out of control anger, you should seek counseling or at the very least, look into anger management classes.
10. umm maybe you should go see a threpist because sounds like you have some anger issues. And if you get so mad that you are willing to key your boyfriend's car why are you even with the jerk?
11. First you are psycho because you don't know how to deal with your emotions see a counselor or something and learn how to deal. And fixing his car is the morally right thing to do, so I guess it depends on your morals, besides even if he goes someplace expensive you pay for what you did wrong
12. Well, even if he can't prove it & you don't end up having to pay, you will feel better & be doing the mature thing by confessing & paying for the damage. Maybe you can ask him to please take it somewhere reasonable, and maybe he will respect that since you are doing the right thing by fixing it.
Its possible that since he doesnt have any proof, you won't get in trouble, but it will be stressful & bad to have the police get involved. If it were me, I would just pay him for the damage.
I understand how it is to be so angry that you can't control yourself. But hopefully you will learn from this expensive mistake. I have a suggestion, maybe you can try yoga or a stress management class (some community colleges have them) to learn how to be calm in stressful situations? It helps me at work when I get mad or am dealing with an angry client. Just an idea
13. You admitted you did the damage, you should be responsible for your actions. I think that if you pay for the damages, maybe next time your temper flares up you'll be able to control yourself. It's an expensive lesson for you. If he takes you to court, it could cost you even more. You have been telling people that you did the damage, you have it in writing on your computer, and if your friends were brought into court to testify, they would have to tell the truth. I think you're in hot water. Pay the damages and be thankful he isn't going to call the police.
14. Everybody gets very angry sometime, you crossed the line when you committed a criminal act. Get help now or the next time you "loose it" will land you in jail.
15. taking it way too far let him enjoy life and get off his back
16. Your friends are right, because he didn't see you do it he cannot prove you keyed the car unless he has witnesses that will sign aftidavidts stating they saw you do it/willing to testify in court. If you confess (the right thing to do, I mean how would you feel if you were him) he will most likely make you write it down and sign off that you did it and agree to repay him.
His car insurance should cover vandalism if he has COMP coverage, and you should just reimburse him for the deductible.
His clothing is the same thing situation he didn't see you so he can't prove you did it. If you come up with a good story you might be albe to slide on it, but you WILL feel terrible, especially if your feeling guilty already :)
People have a right to be themselves, you get mad and he can be an asshole, these characterstic traits are your God given rights , WHAT IS NOT OKAY is to allow those traits to dictate the circumstances of others, i.e. I'm mad so I will inconvience my ex so that he can be mad too. You have every right to be a psyco , but when you impose that onto other people and they have to suffer because of it, it's not right.
I say, pay the man if you can afford to, if you can't don't sign anything and make him prove it, but be prepared for some payback.
17. sometimes a problem excalates not because of the problem itself but how we choose to react to a situation. in your case, you over reacted and so things got out of hand. i think you better start cleaning up your mess. fess up. i know it would be expensive but then, doing so will give you a clean slate and a chance to do it all over again in a different way. its time to re-evaluate your relationship too.
tell him what triggers you to act psycho so he can avoid doing things that make you go ballistic. and whenever you feel you wanna explode, go out to some empty space and scream your lungs out...and eat ice cream or chocolate.
18. I think it's only right that you pay for all the damages since you know you did do it, especially if it was over something petty. If you already feel bad about it, do you think you're gonna feel any better by not owning up? And just because he didn't see u do it, how sure are u that no one else did? It would be the right thing to do, ya know. Save yourself more trouble in the end. You sure you should stay in a relationship with someone that makes you so mad that you feel the need to do things like this?????
19. Girl, you need help. Listen, my ex hit me, bruised me, and when I broke up he stalked me, put a ppo against me and began dating my psycho neighbor, right next door to me 24/7. I lost 3 car windows and 2 stereos; I never did anything to him, to his car, etc, and if anyone has a reason to key a car or damage some ex's property, it would be me or someone in a similar situation.
Sweety, find a psychologist to help you figure out your actions before you kill somebody. Join a church and get involved with good people to model yourself after.
20. No she isn't bipolar don't give her excuses you knew exactly what you were doig and if he sends you to court you will pay up or maybe even do some jail time for premeditating it. You say he is your boyfriend so you need to pay up because you know that you did it. He is a okay guy for not calling the cops and having you arrested.....PAY THE MAN
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