my husband has a brother who has a girlfriend. she is a lovelly girl and we have become friends. a few days ago i found out that he had cheated on her. i am torn. do i tell her? or do i mind my own business? i jsut know that if that was me i would rather know. he did it with one of her best friends.
Answers:
1. This is really tough. You don't want to be the ham in the middle, so you might be better off taking the boyfriend aside and saying you know what he's done, and he either needs to tell her or you will. Then the ball is in his court. If he isn't man enough to tell her, go ahead! I would want to know if I were her!
2. The most important relationship here is the one between you and your husband. If you tell anyone, tell your husband. Then he can decide what to do. You don't want your husband to become angry with you for interfering in his brother's life. This could cause a rift between the two of you.
3. There are some things you have to leave to time. Let your brother in law know that you know and you will tell her if he doesnt. See what happens then. Remember, he is now your brother also, just by you being married to his brother.He is family, she is not. Who knows how committed they are to each other. Best bet, let them work it out. Nothing stays in the dark for long.
4. If you tell the whole family will hate you. I wouldn't tell her but maybe you could tell him one on one that was wrong and that she is a nice girl. Let him know if he really likes her he could lose her by cheating. Ask him would he care if she was seeing other dudes.
I would not threaten to tell. He may get mad, plus that is his family first if you overstep your bounds the family may turn on you.
5. Mind your own business, If that were his wife I'd go to him and say you've put me in an uncomfortable position, and should this continue I'll be forced to tell your wife whats going on. I'd want to know if she had this information either you end this or I tell. I'd not go to the girlfriend at all simply because she is the girlfriend he's not obligated to her. Dont get involved. If it makes you feel better to mention to him how uncomfortable he has made you and to keep that situation away from you, by all means do so.
6. This is a tough one. My opinion is this: If he isn't willing to confess then tell her yourself. I'd want to know if I was her.
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