I got your attention so plThis is the situation. She asked me for help and i told her what i thought but want some more opinions. I have this friend that i care about alot(she) and she is with a guy who treats her like **** to be blunt. He isnt mean to her but disrespects her. His friends say she isnt good enough for him and he wont defend her or say anything back, and told her that it is her problem and not his. Ignores her sometimes, and only wants to be around her when he wants something. I personally think he is using her but i want your opinion. She is feelin really down and im tryin to tell her that she deserves better which she does. What do you guys think?
19 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer. ease help my friend out. She wants to say something to him about respecting her but my point is, she shouldnt have to if he really cares. What do you think? This girl is a total sweetheart
Answers:
1. She needs to walk. This guy is a total uncaring jerk, and she is depressed. If you are with someone who is good for you and to you, you are not depressed.
Dump him, NOW!
2. i say he is only with her to show her off to his friends but to insecure to treat her as an equal, he sounds like a dick to me...tell her she deserves better..u want a boyfriend who tells u ur beautiful and never ignores u and wants to be with u
3. i'm not a guy but she needs to walk
4. Everybody has what they deserve. In relationships, at least. Obviously, not when natural disasters strike... nobody deserves to be killed in a volcano eruption... Thing is - she can't walk away from a volcano. BUT SHE CAN walk away from this man... And yet she doesn't. Ask yourself why? Perhaps, a part of her ENJOYS being put down, ignored, disrespected? Perhaps, subsonsciously, she chooses this kind of relationship - often as a result of childhood trauma, such as abuse, rape, loneliness... all this can result in a low self-esteem, and thinking that this man, as bad as he is, is probably her only chance to be with someone, as opposed to being alone. And for a lot of people BEING ALONE is worse than being in an abusive relationship... and so it continues. Your friend would really benefit from professional councelling. I strongly recommend it.
5. I know it hurts to break up but she needs to dump his ***. She'll be better off for it. She needs to find a guy who actually cares about her.
6. Sounds like she has low self esteem. She's going to keep being miserable until she leaves him. That's what happens. Be supportive but she needs to do this for herself.
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