The guy i like just told me he inda has a drinkin problem he said he was a little drunk when i was talkin to him and not to tell anyone what he said was he hasnet gone 3 weeks with out getting drunk and now he slams 3 beer before bed to get buzzed. he told me a while ago that he liked me but now he has a gf.i dont understand why he told me this and not his gf.i really care about him and i'm ready to do what ever it takes to help himcuz hes a really nice sweet guy.
Answers:
1. So what's the question?
2. tell him to not drink anymore and no smoking...
3. You can't help him untill he can help hisself
4. I hate to say this but your not his girlfriend... you have to let his family deal with it
5. Sounds like a budding alcoholic. Best to just leave this one alone. He can be someone else's problem.
6. It is really nice of you to want to help him, but if you don't know him that well, it may be difficult to do that without it being a great strain on you. Dealing with someone's alcoholism is very hard. So be careful.
7. No matter what remember one thing. You can not change anyone. They have to change, and not for you for themselves. The only thing that you can do in this situation, is be honest, and make sure you communicate. Tell him exactly what bothers you, and See if he can see it. If he can't see it. Run as fast as you can. There is no changing someone who doesn't see anything wrong to change. You will only hurt yourself in the process.
8. Boy, i would run from this guy...He needs to fix himself before dating anyone...You can not fix this guy, its kind that you want to try but do not get involved with this guy...You are asking for trouble if you do...Stay safe girlie...
9. Just be careful in what you get involved in. I am VERY familiar w/alcoholism. I seriously wuld. suggest he call the 800 AA hot line & have them give him ALL the info he needs. He needs professional help, & IF you're NOT familiar w/any of it, leave it to someone who does. DO suggest he call this no. tho & I PROMISE they w/steer him in the proper direction he needs to deal w/his situation. This wuld. be the very BEST help you culd. give him. Just be supportive of him. IF he does want to go to mtgs., which he shuld., some of them are "open" & you culd. go w/him to a few to maybe get him started. But this I wuld. HIGHLY recommend...If you wanted to & still plan on being friends w/him, you culd. go to some Alanon mtgs. & get the assistance you'd need in order to help him. That wuld. help you greatly. I DO wish you the best, but please do this for him for starters anyway. It's the BEST thing you culd. do for him...
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