Scared of sex?

1. .It will hurt, there is no escaping that, but think about how it will feel once the pain passes.Its not that bad and it quickly does. Dont obsess about it. Relax and dont be afraid to tell your man what makes you comfortable and what doesn't. And trust me. It gets better with practice. It would help a lot if your hubby could wait until you are at that point where pain be damned, you gotta have it. Lots of foreplay. LOTS of foreplay.

2. dont be scared. it hurts a lil at first then your good to go. its not like crazy status pain where youre gonna die.

3. if ur a guy it doesn't hurt lol

4. Use plenty of lubracation and you should be fine darling.

5. if done right and easy use ky_ jell it wont hurt that much my opion?

6. it's not that big of a deal and it does not hurt like they say. it's more of a good pain.

7. Its not that kind of pain. Take your time getting to actual intercourse, and you will be ready. If you are nervous it will not be as nice. Relax, enjoy! If it was bad, noone would be doing it!!

8. Find a way to relax, and hopefully your partner can give you enough enjoyment in the beginning to keep your mind off the brief pain. Try lube for the first time so there is no worries about more pain then necessary. Sometimes if you are too stressed your womenly juices cannot work properly. Relax and trust your husband

9. Your fear is totally wrong. Sex gives pleasure. It is natural too.

10. Er. your avatar is a man. I should hope you've never used a tampon.

11. If your mate is gentle it will not hurt. It is more like uncomfortable for a few seconds. Do not stress yourself out worrying bout it--it is more good than bad!

12. Yes it is painful but it differs from person to person so don't let you person's experience affect you. Just make sure the person who is marrying you takes it easy and slowly slides in after a while it wont hurt. Good luck and god bless you and your relationship it's sad that these days over 50% of marriages end in divorce.

13. Well when I had gotten married for the first time, we divorced 12 years later, he was abusive, I was 19 ... So I will NOT say anything about it! Its a scary thing, just remember take your time, do not be afraid to tell him, it hurts, it might not hurt ... Just remind him, you've not done this and are scared! My first time did not hurt, its all in the "warm up" if you understand what I am getting at! GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH AND GOD BLESS!!!

14. Hello, I hope I could help at least a little. OK some people do say it hurts others says a little.. My advice to you would be take it very slow.. dont rush into things quickly.. let your future husband know just how you feel.. Then both of you can discuss ways for you to feel more comfortable.. And to help you feel more relaxed.. Making love should be a special time not a hurting time. Talk it out.. And everything will work out fine.

15. The truth is...that it does hurt a little the first time....but the key is to be relaxed and not to be uptight....Just take your time.....I think my 17 year old daughter is a lot like you....she can't stand any pain....a hangnail will send her into hysteria.....

16. Use a lot of lubricant like KY jelly on him and yourself. Relax, don't think about it hurting, that'll make you tense up. If you are super tense, that equals super tight and that's what will hurt. It doesn't hurt if you can totally relax and get into it. Maybe a lot of foreplay would help you get into it and relax. Good luck and Congrats!! You'll see sex is a great part of marriage and it's extra special since he is your first.

17. Don't worry.... breathe. It does NOT hurt. It is more of a discomfort. Plus, it's your wedding night so it will be a different type of discomfort.... an exciting, barely noticeable discomfort, compared to a headache discomfort. (sorry, I used discomfort a lot)

18. Just be really relaxed. A glass of wine can help. You don't even have to have sex the very first night. If you have a while for your honeymoon, go by degrees over a few days, or even a week. Try other physical contact, like massaging, bathing together. You can ask him to use his finger first, to get you used to the sensation of something there. The first time doesn't have to hurt that much. Make sure you are really feeling aroused and wet before doing anything. Otherwise, it can cause problems and further fear. Fear makes you tense. I once met a couple where the wife wouldn't let hubby touch her anymore because he just did it when she wasn't ready and made it a really bad experience for her. They both didn't know what they were doing. So, educate yourself to take away fear of the unknown. Then just go with the flow. Talk a lot with hubby, too. He may feel he needs to perform the first night, but maybe just as nervous as you are.

19. So you have a pic of a guy in your avatar, still I saw one of your questions before and you claim to be a black woman dating a white guy… but the pic is of a black guy, or at least it looks like. Sorry but there is something wrong here. Anyways, for a guy, 99.9999% of the time will not hurt. Is more about how tight she is to actually make him feel uncomfortable. For a girl, it depends, many girls feel some pain the first time because of the hymen braking. Others have it open enough that it doesn’t even brake. And also you have the possibility of he being small and she being big (I mean down there) so he doesn’t get to hurt her at all. As I said, it all depends. If you know you are tight down there, and you know also that he is big, you might want to have some “pre-sessions” with him, and maybe use your fingers or his to “break it up”. This is good cause then you guys can actually have sex later on all the way and be able to enjoy it better without worrying about pain.

20. I was a virgin when I too got married. When you get all hot and heavy you don't think about the pain. Tell him it is your first time and have him be gentle. Try touching but wait. Don't have your moment yet let him slide inside you gently. Do this as much as possible with him until there is no pain. Also, since you are such a young bride remember to be on the pill or you will be a young mommy too. Enjoy.

21. Everything will be fine, I am sure your husband to be and you both will take extra time and effort to ensure your first time is memorable for both of you (and not due to pain). Congratulations on your impending nuptials.

22. Make sure your husband knows your fears! He needs to take it slowly, make sure there is plenty of foreplay so you are feeling really good, use lubricant if needed before he enters you. It hurt a bit, but more like a stretching pain and nothing you can't handle! If he takes it slow, enters and then pauses before moving so you get used to the feeling, it is better. The little bit of pain involved with the first time is well worth the pleasure you will give each other as time goes on! Congratulations!

23. I am not a woman, so I can't tell you about the pain. My advise to make things easier / better. relax. Don't be so up-tight. Sex is not some magical thing. Just about everyone has done it. I can't do magic tricks, but I have had sex. I do not mean to be crude, but Do you masturbate? If not, start. It will help you get used to being open down there. Experiment with your body, it will help you lose the fears of someone else doing it. Like I said, I do not know about the pain for a woman on the first time, but I do know things hurt less when you are relaxed. No matter how the pain comes. Hope this helps and you're next question is in a couple of year's asking how you can get you husband to get more freaky in bed.