i've known this guy for a while now. we're in a lot of the same classes; we're both in college. long story short, i wonder if there might be something brewing between us on a crush level. in general, he's a nice guy (although sometimes slightly on the shy side) and generally a guarded person.
some days, i'll get glances w/ smiles; he doesn't mind being "in each other's space"; he shares slightly more personal things with me (nothing over the top); he teases me in a nice way; we've got a few inside jokes; he doesn't mind hanging out one on one; he'll laugh at my jokes, even if they're lame; his feet will point in my directions; his torso faces me, even if he's directing conversation elsewhere; he picks me out of a crowd; he holds doors for me; he makes silly faces at me in passing; etc.
however, sometimes he barely acknowledges me; he makes up lame excuses when i ask him to hang out; he "disappears" after class. he doesn't call/im me often, but will talk if i make contact.
ideas?
Answers:
1. From one woman to another who has been through high school and college dating, THE GUY IS NOT INTERESTED IN DATING YOU, OK? I don't care how shy he is. Women use that as a sign of "hope". "Oh, he's shy but he really loves me and wants to marry me and have children with me. He is just too shy to ask me out". Rubbish. He isn't interested. He is using you for the time you are together to get his jollies and that is it.
2. i would tell him how you fell. so he has some faults. everyone dose. there r people i know that hate the fact that they waited to tell the person and he was teken by then. i mean, im perverted and my girl still loves me.
3. Hopefully, it's just fear of rejection or self consciousness at the next level. Sounds like a fairly good guy...holding doors is a plus. Make a internal decision, tho. You need to make sure YOU want a "next level" relationship b4 you can start worrying about specific idiosyncrasies. And, if it takes YOU making the contact, invite him over/out for a casual dinner...even if it's just mac-n-cheese, lol.
He may be thinking that you don't feel anything other than friendship, and is afraid (especially if he's somewhat guarded) to take another step forward.
Lead the way, and take it at your pace, lol.
4. well I think you need to, well when the moment is right, you need to tell him straight or ask him if he likes you in that way.Because I was in the same situation a couple of months ago with my best guy friend, and when i finally got the courage and told him he said that I told him too late!! he said that because he was shy he didnt ask me and he thought that I would never go for him. So he started to get over me...we are still great friends and he keeps telling me that one day we could be more!!
So basically, dont leave it too late because I regret not telling him sooner!! so pluck up the courage and go for it!!!
*good luck*
5. He's not the one,
he has his life.
Find someone else to date,
and hangout with.
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