Now that i got your attention. This is the situation. She asked me for help and i told her what i thought but want some more opinions. I have this friend that i care about alot(she) and she is with a guy who treats her like **** to be blunt. He isnt mean to her but disrespects her. His friends say she isnt good enough for him and he wont defend her or say anything back, and told her that it is her problem and not his. Ignores her sometimes, and only wants to be around her when he wants something. I personally think he is using her but i want your opinion. She is feelin really down and im tryin to tell her that she deserves better which she does. What do you guys think?
Answers:
1. 5 hours ago
This girl is a total sweetheart and just a very great person. Please help me help her.
2. She should dump him. No one deserves to be treated badly.
3. Tell her your honest opinion.
She'll either take it to heart or completely ignore it. It's totally up to her.
Sometimes, people just need someone to say it to start seeing the truth. If she's truly unhappy, she'll jump ship.
4. tell her that she needs someone better. like you, it sounds like. it sounds like her boyfriend dosen't care, as you said, unless he wants something. tell her to dump him.
5. All you can do, as her friend is be there for her. When you're in a bad relationship (I've been there!) you can hear all the "he's using you, you can do better" but until you're really ready to see it for what it is, it is really difficult to make the break. Hopefully she will see the light! He sounds like a total jerk!
6. tell her that she needs to find someone new and figure out why she is with him if she is with him because of popuatity tell her it is not worth getting her heart borken or being totally imbarresed also tell her they he and her boy friend can be friends but not boyfriend and girl friend
oh yeah also give her lots of hugs and always listen to her in her time of need make sure she gets happy and stays happy
7. i think you should tell her to back up because the only that this will keep doing is hurting her more...so tell to redeem her personalty and make something worth and to believe that she can do anything without that guy...and if she loves him a lot iit does not mean for to not love him anymore...
8. Sit down and have a a serious conversation with her about it.
Tell her that what you're going to say is not because you're jealous. Then she'll hear you out.
9. That sounds exactly like this one friend of mine who was with this loser for years and had a kid with him. There probably is not much you can do but give her your opinion . Some girls don't listen to the advise of other when it comes to men, but need to make the decision to leave on their own.
10. You already know the answer. Why don't you just ask her out already? If your gay Max, then that explains it. However, if you are sitting back watching her make mistakes and deciding on when to make your move, then MAKE IT. Don't let her suffer anymore. To be quite honest, if you don't have more feelings for this girl then just a friend, just let her work through her own situations. You cannot dictate what she should do. If you are not into her in a relationship way, then you continue to carry on with your own life and stop getting consumed in hers. I think she is a good reason of why you are avoiding your own life.
11. Well, she has to stand for herself, unfortunately unless her thinks that is wrong to let him to treat her like that, there's nothing to do, even as a friend, you can try to convince her, but at the end if her self-eesteem is down or lack of it, for sad to say this, you can't do nothing about it.
Self-steem can be build, can be learned, but only when by yourself you have the will to change something from you.
Sometimes wise people say: "let them feel down, perhaps she is gonna go to the right path for her own good, unless she is masochist :( ... (pleasure for suffering..)
Keep being a good friend.
12. It appears to me that your friend believes that her boyfriend still loves her that's why she's still holding on to their relationship. But come to think of it if a man really loves you, he will treasure you and will provide extraordinary treatment with you just to make you happy and feel special. In my opinion, your friend needs to let go of her boyfriend and move on with her life.
Hope it made sense...c",)
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