My girlfriend and I are having problems right now, and I hope I can get a little help from you all. She said that she has been wondering how things would be if we are not together. She also said that she thinks that she is not as good of a girlfriend to me as much as she could be. Also, she has been making future decisions without talking to me. Right now, I am trying to fight through the problems, but I wonder if it is worth the time. Is the relationship already over? Is there anything I could do? Please Help!
Answers:
1. Let her have her space, only she can say if the relationship is over.
2. Red flag: She's giving up.
If you want her, if you need her.... keep fighting. Obviously, she is voicing doubts about the relationship. And it sounds like she needs some reassuring and a boost of self-confidence. A serious talk needs to be in order for you two. Start communicating.
From a girls point-of-view... I would want my boyfriend to fight for me. Even.... even if the relationship was nearing an end. It is always worth the time.
3. She is getting ready to dump you.I heard that before.Dump her,don't wast your time.Those are signs.Trust me been there.
4. I know it's going to be hurtful to hear this, but here goes. I was unfortunately in the same situation... only I was the one wondering what the heck is going on with us and he had all these excuses why we couldn't be a we anymore. Speaking from personal experience with myself and most of my girlfriends, when we're into somebody and in love we want to make things work. We want to spend time with our significant other. I've noticed with men that when they start losing interest the excuses for withdrawl start to immerge... so I can only guess that's what's going on with her. She's probably questioning her feelings and her future with you. It doesn't mean there's someone else always, but I've learned that usually there is.
Remember this is from a girls point of view. Not every female is the same. Some have deep hearts and are extremely committed and some can be free-spirited and love to spread their wings & fly. You more than anyone know how she treated you when times were good, so you have to take a look at all the changes and figure out if your relationship is salvagable from both parties. Sit down & have a true heart to heart with her. Nothing makes a girl feel like she's truly loved than the man she's with coming to her about his feelings... cause many man cannot be open about what they feel inside.
Good luck, and I hope it works out for you.
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