Some people juss misunderstood the question, that is why in end i wrote that i tried to support and explain him the reasons-still u people are juss suggesting to go and talk to him and some other people thought that i am a business woman worried about only money-thats what my husband thinks sometimes but u know he always praise me and i know he love me lot.me too.but sweety the problem is that when u guys want us(gals/wives to play the role of wife nicely -fulfilling all the duties of bahu towards inlaws, making food for all, doing all house hold-while he does help me in house hold work but as in on our weekends he want me to serve his mom and dad, so if u guys want us to play the role of a typical indian bahuand wife then u should better understand the role of a husband in an indian family to go out earn and feed all his family and this is not my duty to feed him and his family along with preparing food and washing clothes.U GOT IT -This one is for the person who said i m money orient
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1. About time someone eles understands what I am going thought. My husbands been out of work for 2years now and I do everything. And just this weekend we want out to dinner and he wanted me to pay for eveyones food I looked at him and said with what money. His mother asked us to go out and then he wants me to do all the house work when I am off all he does is sit a home all day
2. i never answered your question but you have my best on this matter really my opion/
3. Well, you married him honey, not us, so please stop yelling at us. If you don't like your situation, speak up or leave. You don't have too many other options now do you?
4. Yeah well my ex was kind of like that too, work and take care of the household is a woman's job! My husband is into the equal share thing we both work and we both cook, and clean, although he does all the yardwork. I think if a women or man stays home and the other works the one at home should "keep" the home. Cooking cleaning, serving etc.....
5. Whether Indian, or not, I agree with you on this!
6. if you are so perfect in playing the role of bahu and wife, why dont you quit your job and stay at home, then your role playing will be even more perfect. it will also force your husband to find some work ? your duties are not set in stone, did you get some document listing out your duties when you got married or did you agree be together in sickness, in good time and bad ? try to learn some lesson from savitri, sita, anasuya, arundhati even if you cant be like them, you should not grudge the food your husband eats. a wife is compared to "annapurna" "mother" because she feeds the husband just as she feeds her children but i guess none of these apply to you. your so called love, is not real love as you would never grudge food if you loved someone. we even feed strangers in our culture "atidhi devo bhava" but i guess your husband is worse then a stranger to you.
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