Basically I don't understand my boyfriend. I am a really good girlfriend and I am not to needy. We used to have kind of an issue at the begining of me being needy but i havn't been in two years. But we never do anything anymore we don't ever go out to dinner and we didn't even for our 4 year anniversary. I dont understand i am such a good girlfriend and i think im a pretty girl(people tell me i look like lc from laguna beach). but idk i just dont understand what to do. I cried one night to him which I never ever ever do in our four year relationship about how he was talking to some girl and it seemed like he wanted to run away. i started talking to another guy and he freaked out and told me that i was his and that he would commit better but ummmm he still hasnt even taken me out to dinner in four months... Im nice to him too... I never get in fights with him or whatever...I don't get it... please give me some good guy advice for what happening? :-)
Answers:
1. It's probably because you are way too nice for him. I once was in your situation, I held on for our relationship for three years thinking that I can't live without him but then again I realized I was hurting too much and we that our relationship was not growing anymore. So, I broke up with him. And I really meant it when I say it was over. At first, he thought I was just joking about it so he agreed. But later on when he realized he was losing me for real, he begged me to stay (a million times) but I thought it was too late, so I stood up for my decision. I guess my point here is to make him realize that you don't deserve what he is doing to you and that he is losing one great girl if he lets you pass.
And oh, by the way I got back with my boyfriend a few months ago. And he's changed a lot. *smiles*
I hope you too will be happy because you are a wonderful girl. :)
2. I agree with the answer above me. I've been exactly where you are for 7.5 years with someone who never seen me for who I am inside. I was ignored most of the time and made to feel as if I didn't exist. When someone truly loves you they go out of their way to make you happy, feel special, and want to make sure your needs are met. You deserve a guy who treats you like a queen, you obviously treat him like a king. Don't settle for anything less. If you remain in a relationship where your needs aren't being met you will eventually resent the person you're with and it will fall apart in the end if inner needs aren't being met on both sides.
Follow your heart and your head. You'll do the right thing for you!
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