really don't have THAT many problems with it
i have dated someone from about every race and culture on Earth
but
i have one qualifier: it should be done because you see someone you think is very nice, NOT because you hate your race, culture, family, country, etc or for curiosity
that is doing something for the wrong reason
i never dated a man out of my race or married one because i was thinking "damn i hate black men" and i never dated guys who came to me with the mentality "i can't stand white, Asian, Jewish, Latino, etc women" or "i wonder what black women are like"
do you know i met a man who wanted to sleep with an Asian woman because he thought their private parts were turned a different way?!!!???!!!
have you ever heard anything so idiotic?
in other words,i think as long as intentions are good there is nothing wrong with it
also, most interracial/intercultural couples are accepted, but if you are a black woman, people still have problems with it
and in such a relationship, if you are thinking long term, you must take care that you let no outside forces (mentalities, family, ideas) destroy your relationship
and from what i have heard and understood the same goes for people involved in homosexual relationships too
you can't let the outside inside
Answers:
1. I've heard that in some families/religions, you are only allowed to date someone of your own race. One of my friend's friends family is like that. Her family will only let her date another pure blood Chinese guy, but right now she's in love with a filippino dude, and her parents are trying to force her to break up with her true love. How sad! I don't think I'm racist or try to date a certain race, but of course there are always those preferences that everyone has. For example, I don't think I'm ever going to date an african american, because I just don't find myself feeling attracted to them or their personalities and just in general. (But then again, I know a girl who only dates african americans...)
2. I believe that when people meet someone they shouldnt say well im not going to date them because they r this or that. you should try it out and then judge their personality not base their culture or skin color on their personality and judge first. to the girl with the first answer(hisgirl) she proved my point she said she wont date african americans because she dont like their personalities, but she dont know every african american man how can she say because of their personalities like all of them have the same one.
3. To each, their own. Anything that prevents two people from being happy...is wrong. There is so much hypocracy today, that everyone's worried hoe "the public" will receive them......well, I say if adults make a decision, let them deal with the consequences....good and bad.
4. Call me stupid, but somehow considering the grief gays appear to catch, saying that interracial dating is comparable to a homosexual dating doesn't do much for me. But I'm not into physical, mental or emotional pain, but if you are, I say bring it on, baby.............. lol
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