ok heres the thing the guy i like told me he liked me but i just found out he just started dating someone else. he just talked to me tonight and told me that he hasnt gone 3 weeks with out gettin drunk! he said he cant stop and slams 3 to get buzzed every night! but he doesnt want me to tell anyone. Why did he tell me this though and not his gf? but more important WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HIM SLOW IT DOWN!
Answers:
1. if you know his parennts well make sure they know.
tough love
2. All you can really do is try to lead by example.
3. You can't help him. He has to hit rock bottom before he will stop. He is probably already an alcoholic. Sadly, if you try to help it enables him to continue to drink. This is not your problem. Don't get involved. You are a sensitive person and it will hurt you deeply. He needs to go to AA meetings. Stay away from him. Nothing good can come from this.
4. Call someone from AA they can help you with answers you need
5. Well, he sounds like a winner. I would suggest you have an affair with him and after you get knocked up, demand he split up with his girlfriend on the Jerry Springer show. Then you and she can fight and he gets to stay with the winner.
6. aww, that's rough. maybe you should just have a long sit down and talk to him. and if that doesn't work, just get a bunch of his friends together that care about him and have a sort of intervention. he might be mad at you initially for doing this, but in the long run you are only helping him. so, you should just bear the consequences of now.
7. Schedule fun things to do during the week that dont involve alcohol. Right when you guys get out of work go to a park, have a picnic, etc.
8. 3 beers, wow, sounds like your still in high school, or younger... hes telling you because maybe he thought he was talking to her, your young and this guy sounds like a loser, forget him... 3 weeks drunk, tell him to get a job, or a hobby.
9. as a 'like' friend, you can help him. ask him to kiss you every time he feels like having a drink. who knows what it might lead to?
10. ok first of all. How old is the guy. He sounds really young, or just plain immature.
Most likely he does like you, but he likes that girl more than you, for a simple reason that maybe shes better looking or shes a bit easier.
About the drinking tell him if he dosent slow down he will most likely at one point of his life end up with a bad expensive addiction, diabetes and a big *** beer belly!
11. Sometimes guys are afraid to tell girls that because the girlfriend might get mad, its probably his way of avoiding a fight with her. He probably wants to tell you so maybe you'll be impressed or maybe he wants to stop drinking and telling a girl who actually cares might get him to stop. Ask him why he drinks so much. If he doesn't have a reason then tell him he should take it easy. Help him help himself.
12. If you can get involved, if not, tell someone. It's never healthy to abuse alcohol, and your status is pretty irrelevant.
13. You cannot help a drunk. Alcoholism is a desease. A person has to accept the fact that they need help and be willing to submit themselves to whatever it takes. Apart from that there's nothing you can do.
14. You can tell him that his drinking bothers you, but really, there is nothing you can do unless he wants to help himself. For your own safety and well-being, it is not a good idea to get involved with someone who drinks like that.
15. really there is nothing you can do .sounds like he needs AA . But until he is ready then there nothing you can do . and if he say one thing and does another then that tells me he lies . you don't need that . go find someone better for you .believe me the last thing you need is a lieing drunk . you cant change someone that really does not want help .
16. 1. he's a player/confused.
2. he need to stop drinking bad for the liver.
3. he's alcoholic and needs professional help.
4. probably depressed, and maybe pre-suicidal.
5. he trust you. he thinks your not judgemental.
6. his gf may udge him.
7. he needs professional help, help him go cold turkey.
17. You can't, so don't waste your energies trying. He has to take the consequences of his own actions to make him want to change. He is just using you now, in a power play to build up his own ego. When he has enough hangovers, and loses his job and his driver's license, then he will consider a change. Those things can take time, so look for a nice guy who will treat you right and not load you with his problems. You can't be a doormat if you don't go down. Best wishes
18. Well, I never been through this problem but here is a suggestion.
Get serious with him, explain that you are his friend foremost and you are little concern with his drinking habits. Tell him why you are soo concern with them, ask him why he feels that he needs so much,
When did he start binging in the first place.
Lastly ask if he wants to stop drinking so much, cause if he doesn't then he isn't going to stop what he is doing. Just keep reminding him time to time that he needs to slow down, and that you are there for him when he does decide that he needs help.
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