My mom controls me, she lies I know she does and denies it, she talks me into stuff and then after I make a decision she tells me I made that decision to make me feel bad. Im 42. I think Im going to get a counselor Im feeling little right now.
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1. 5 hours ago
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2. 4 hours ago
Im married with two kids. I dont live with her. I fight her alot and she still controls me.
3. 4 hours ago
I am a deaf person by the way, was born that way and grew up that way....is that why? And thats not fair!
4. you already answered your question :)
counselor is the best way to get over this because i mean at your age, you shouldnt be controlled by your mom like that.
5. Yes, by all means get a counselor! like yesterday! and do not tell your mom!
6. First of all at 42 years old you should be your own person. I don't believe your mom should be controlling you. You seem to be allowing yourself to be a victim. Maybe you are spending too much time with your mother. Could be that you feel you owe her for some reason. I don't know all the facts,such as if you are living in her home, or if you have to depend on her for some reason etc.
7. I am sorry that you are feeling small at this time.
I think you should be proud of yourself! :-D
Yup! You said "I think I'm going to get a councellor"
If you changed that statement just a teeny weeny bit from
"I think" to "I AM going to get a councellor" You will be creating what could amout to be a defining moment in your life, by taking a first big step toward self-care.
One important lesson that I have learned through councelling, & self-care is that nobody can control me unless I let them.
I hope that you will learn that for yourself as well.
Seeing a councellor for me was a brave step. It took a lot of courage. I didn't know what it would be like, but after the 1st session I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. My councellor was (our sessions ended over a year ago) very supportive, and non-judgemental. That was something that was rather strange to me.
I hope you find a councellor like mine.
She helped me tremendously.
Meanwhile be proud of your decision to go for some councelling, and don't be afraid to take good care of yourself, because you are a good and deserving person.
8. I highly recommend you see a counselor about this. Your mom has no right to do this and I also think she needs counseling to control her behavior.
9. People can only control you if you let them, Great idea getting counseling and how about some assertiveness training?
10. Counseling sounds like a great idea! Some families are just toxic, and talking to a counselor can be a good way to gain some perspective.
11. No one can control you without your permission. You don't live with her so you don't have to spend time with her. Choose to be your own person and definitely get some counseling.
People will say that you're too old to be controlled by your mother. They're right, but not everyone is able to get themselves out of patterns they grow up with. A good counselor will be able to teach you what steps to take and will help you find your own inner strength so you can live your own life without your mother's interference. Until you're able to take charge of your life you would do well to avoid spending time with your mother.
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