13 yrs back i had an affair with my cousin and were not allowed to marry beco'z of the diff in the financial status. iam married to a very loving person, successful in his career. I and my cousin did not meet for 13 yrs. recently when i was on a trip to India, we met in a wedding. he started communicating with me on the web and phone and has activated me to love him again. but he says he doesn't want to marry me for 2 reasons
1. both of us have children
2. since my husband is more succesful than him in life, he feels that he doesn't deserve me. but he promised me in future if my husband comes to know of this he would marry me. he wants me to continue with this relation. we don't meet each other at all beco'z he is in India and iam in US. iam not able to breakup this relation since he is very senstive. whenever i ask him about marrying me, he says love has nothing to do with marriage. but if u think that marriage is a measure for my love, i can marry u. pls help me
Answers:
1. sweetie:
Get this IDIOT out of your system and learn to be loving and loyal to husband. How can you even think about marrying this guy. Stay focussed on your marriage and value it.
Stay away from the so called cousin and the stupid infatuation.
2. What kind of idiotic answer are you looking for?you are blinded by all those "red flags"!
3. What on earth are you thinking? This is your cousin, you need some serious psychological help honey. How shallow do you need the gene pool to be? Leave this alone and stay married to the guy who isn't a blood relative please.
4. Dear Sony,
One word answer is a big `NO'. You should not even entertain such thoughts in your dream and of course in real life. You have no regrets in life having married to your present successful and loving husband and you lived with him for the best part of your life. No one will support you in this situation. So keep him as a cousin brother and maintain the distance so that he will not attempt to cross the boundary.
Please take care of your kids and family and do good social service. Make your stand very clear to this Romeo.
Agree???
5. you both have children and your husbend is much mor sucessfull then your lover but think about your husbend he also loves you then why are you up to break an destroy your happy family. I think you should forget this man bacause because your husband has faith in you and you are cheating him and lady You should know that god will never forgives a person who cheats a faithfull person you shoul continue your life with your loving family
6. I think both of you should be sensible and be adults about this issue and put an end to it at the soonest. 13 years ago you were young and in love whatever, and made your decision and moved on. now think about your children and for their sake do not destroy your family life just for some useless love for each other.
be friends thats ok , but no more. you say your cousin is too sensitive and will be hurt. just think what will happen if the news gets out and then all his family and children start hating him. then how is he going to cope with that. so go figure and end this useless love affair, just continue being good btother and sister ok.
7. Marry him. Isn't that what you want to hear?
8. Have an orgy both the couples and let things straighten out between you ..........
believe me it works ........lol .... specially for ppl like you.
come on what are u thinking !!!!!
Life also mean responsibilities and this is not love but lust .....
if this guy is so weak that he wanna have an extra marital with you ..... then he is anyways not worth it mam ....!!!
hufffff *** 2 ur senses lady !!!
9. It is against our culture. Be a Indian woman. Have brave in you . And strongly avoid any wish to have company With your cousin.
10. I believe you should not betray your husband's trust in you be whatever the situation is..You have let go ur ex and tell him the fact, you have already given him to past, so be it. Dont ruin up your present and future with the past. I hope you got what I mean.
11. No. You need to treat your cousin now only as a friend and guide. Unless you are not happy with your marriage you cannot look at this as a relationship since your continuation of relationship with your cousin may ruin his married life too.
If at all you are not happy with your married life now, think of an alternative.
12. What you had with your cousin before marriage might have been love but what you are having with him now is a very good close friend you can communicate about anything.... do not forget your committment in life now comes firstly to your kids and hubby then your good friend (cousin) he too should have to same committment..... ask yourself this question "how will you feel if your hubby left you and kids for another woman"..... love is not about being together ....love is about sacrificing your needs to see others happy.
13. you are guilty of boderline adultery. you need to stay true to your husband and not mess with someone else from your past. if you cant stay friends its better you say good bye this relationship, even if it means hurting your friend.
14. Your husband and children are the
most important people in your life!
Just get away from devil now in the
role as your cousin!What you are thinking
itself is betraying your husband and children!How can you even think of all
these stupid things!It is not love what is
attracting hm towards you,it is just ....
you know what is it!?If you do something wrong not only your husband but the whole
world willnot forgive you and you will be
a big sinner infront of God!You will never have happiness,never have mental peace!
Stop contacts with that stupid cousin with
immediate effect.May god bless you and
your family!
15. You are out of your mind. You are married. You have children. Do you have any idea what your children will go through? Just go ahead and live a happy life with your husband and children. If you take a stupid decision to go behind your cousin, you will end up no where.
16. Better shut up this relation forever. Dot buy problems again. What ever happened was happened forget it forever.
17. Stop being so selfish....how would u feel if ur husband did the same to u....nd divorce u and marry off that other women.......certainly wudnt feel great would it? nd what bout the kids ever thot of them....nd i u can do 13 yrs without him u sure do can do ur life without him....and as for him i think hez just having a fling with you.......if he had been serious he would have done somethin 13 yrs ago....so get some sense into that brain of urs and get rid of him sensitive or not....nd he been that sensitive he wouldnt be ditching his wife or kids....
18. sony dearest
since ur from hyd .. i think need to consider many things before i speak ... the first one is ... u left him for more successful person at abroad ... naaku telusu mee manasulu emm undi kaani ..still u left u right ... he cant trust u still since he is still the same ..
he is married and he cant get away frm his responsibilty for a woman who doesnt know wat she wants .. it was far easier if u had been daring enough at start then now .. and he is not the one who would like to be hurt if u break the relation... even now he doesnt believe as much
he just concerned since he has been seeing from childhood and doesnt want u to spoil ur life ... he has to face the world, his family and childern .. for one woman who has dumped him when he needed her the most .. one who insulted him and troubled him ... he is just being soft to u thats all ... not to hurt ..
forget him ... u have caused enough pains in his life ... please not one more time ...
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