This is going to hurt him. But not me. Because he worships me... he is in love, he adores me, he's crazy about me... all that! BUT... I don't love him, I never have, and I am not sexually attracted to him. Personality wise we have a major problem as he is a sub and it brings out all my dom tendecies, which results in a kind of relationship I don't like - we fight, he's ***** whipped, I'm angry and annoyed, I pick on him for anything and everything... If we had a child... I don't want my child to look like this guy!!! You are all thinking: WHY IS SHE WITH HIM??? Well... I am 35 and the time is running out for the family, kids, settling down stuff... You know? (those of you who are single women in their 30s will know exactly what i mean). This man also happens to be very honest, loving, hard-working, financially stable, intelligent, supportive, a non-player 100%, he doesn't drink or smoke or gamble... he has no vices. Except that he bores me to tears and I feel nothing for him. Ideas?
Answers:
1. Get out of the realationship, NOW! Your only going to hurt him ten-fold with how you feel about it. It will come out eventually and you will crush him. You obviously don't respect him and the realtionship will NEVER work if you don't. You also don't want your future kids to grow up seeing this! Let him down gently and put your family plans on hold for someone else.
2. I know it might hurt to tell him but if you don't love him you cant force your self to, so just sit him down and explain to him how your feeling and if he Loves you he will understand..I know your getting older like many and you want a family but take life at a safe pace, you don't wanna end up being with the wrong person again..You WILL find him just let him come to you..Just talk to him and like i said if he loves you he will understand and if he doesn't its not your fault.
3. Sounds to me like you are using him, and it is not fair to him. You are using his feelings for you for your own gain...you sound like an asshole
4. if you truly dont love him then why did you get with him and why are you staying there, if you truly wont out then be a women and let him know that you are unhappy and move
out, trust me he deserve someone that will truly apppreciate
him, you dont. time to let go . it not fair to any one to stay in
a bad situation. and since there is no children is will be a
lot easier.
5. You are incredibly selfish! You are using this good guy because he might be the best bargain in the basement.
Do him (and your precious self) a big favor and move out NOW. Go find someone who does excite you and let him find someone who actually deserves him. You are dishonest, unloving, and 100% player.
You might rethink this whole kids thing while thing you are at it. Selfish mom's make sad children.
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