Latley my husband has been showing intament sighns toward me. At first I just ignored him. But now I am starting to pay attention. He can be a very persuasive man. What I am trying to say is how could I set the perfect mood for sex? I mean should I light candels, play soft music,wear something that is atracttive to him or wear a light perfume? I mean there is so many things that I could do, I just do not know what. This would be my first time haveing sex, so i just want everything to seem relaxed. Some tips on how to get aroused. I just do not want to be lying there half asleep. I just want to feel comfratable and relaxed when we do decide to have sex. I mean my husband he is well already set, he is just ready to go. But for me it is more of a relaxed and planned agenda. So anything that could help would be most appreciated.
Answers:
1. 5 hours ago
We have only been married for TWO months. So this is our first time having sex together. (sorry for the confusion)
2. Early in the morning, i feel like kissing her. with best regard.
3. you could do the romantic thing, with barry white and candles. or you can have a huge (I mean like an epic battle) huge fight with him. then have make-up sex.
4. when both of you are awake.
5. Wait - I don't understand. This is your "first time" having sex with your husband?!? Ever??
6. You're married and a virgin? I'm confused.
7. Its your first time having sex and your married?
8. You're married and haven't had sex yet? I'm thinking you need some wine (if you drink) and have a good make out session, that always arouses me.
9. i wonder to ived tyed every thing too my bf hes a person who really quiet and he loves hes games good luck i know how you fell
10. get some leather whips wear a black mask put on some heavy metal music get some ready whip cream oh and dont forget the handcuffs
11. All your ideas sound great...but why haven't you had sex yet?
2 months? Are you serious? how weird......
12. You have never had sex with your husband. That sounds kind of weird. Maybe you two should go out and buy some books on Kama Sutra or Sexual Massage or something and read them together. To me good sex is but naked with lights on not hiding anything from each other.
13. First of all you are lacking way more details. Its your first time of having sex with your husband? Are you newly weds? He is willing and you are not? Im not sure why you married to begin with or what the circumstances are surrounding it. I will say that if you are not ready, there is noone can tell you how to be. Don't feel obligated in giving into the sex. I know your married, but there are so many details you lack in your question. I feel it not to be fair to you or your husband to help you with. I can suggest to perhaps talk to a marriage councelor to help you get over your initiative fear over sex. As I said, you lack so many details in your initial question. Married people have sex bottom line. Why did you marry this guy to begin with? Did you not anticipate sex happening? Way too many open questions left with the initial question at hand.
14. Ok I'm confused. He's your husband. But you've never had sex with him? In every religion that I can think of, you have to consummate the marriage the night of. Well doesn't matter. Anyway, sounds to me like you need to be completely educated about sex. Yes, lingerie and perfume are good, but you should probably go and buy a book on sexual secrets and techniques. To be perfectly honest, people make way to big of a deal about "the first time". In fact, the first time for many people is not very good. Sex gets better with knowledge and PRACTICE. If it is his first time too, don't put too much work into this, because it will probably be over in less than a minute. I'm not kidding.
15. Lets see if I get this correctly... You are married and have been for some time because you say that "lately he has been coming on to you." You are a virgin and you haven't had sex with your own husband yet?
GET A LIFE. ANYONE IN THEY'RE RIGHT MIND WOULDN'T BELIEVE A WORD OF THIS.
16. Good to know you want to be relaxed about it.
I suggest you read a few books on how your body works as a woman.
Knowing what is going on, and what is supposed to be going on helps.
All the things that you mention are good, but they might not be enough.
You cannot be lying there half asleep if your vagina is still dry because you were not aroused. It would probably hurt, and damage you.
Know how your body is built, and how it works. You'll have to learn which spots on your skin- your entire body, mind you- feel good when you touch them. Chances are, they'll feel great when he does.
Know how your mind is built and how it works, how its attitude works with regard to yourself, yourself with your husband, and your husband- complicated things that you can solve by what you said before, relaxing.
It might not work the first time.
Frankly, I don't know much, but try to be as prepared as you can, and if you do not like something that he is doing to you, TELL HIM. Good luck.
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17. BS.
18. why would you avoid sex with your husband of all people for 2 months..unless it is an arranged marriage...and in that case..
all of what you said works..
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