i just turned 15 a few months ago. my stepmom was doing the laundry last week and found a letter that i had written to my boyfriend. it was about the sex that we'd been having. my stepmom was MAD. she went to my room and looked through all my stuff. She found letters, pictures of me and my boyfriend naked, e-mails.. when i got home she called me into her room and told my sister to take our younger siblings to the park. i went in her room and all this stuff was on her bed. i knew then that i was busted. she told me that i was in trouble and that i was grounded. she was mad and disappointed that i had been lying to her. (she had been trying to talk to me about sex and i kept telling her i was a virgin) we used to be close, but now i am afraid that we are not ever going to be close again. i love my stepmom and i think that she loves me, i mean she is the only mother that i have ever known. she has been in my life since i was four. to be continued
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1. 5 hours ago
she asked my what i thought that i was doing, and i told it wasnt any of her damn business. my stepmom has never slapped me, but she did then. after that we were both crying. i dont know what to do about all this. how is she ever going to love me or not be disappointed in me?
2. A word of warning to all those living at home with mom and dad. There is no such thing as hiding something in your bedroom.
3. You can start by growing up and taking responsibility for your actions. Try to apologize and ask how you can start to attempt to rebuild trust. As far as her striking you. That was wrong on her part. And she needs to apologize to you for that, but I think you need to go to her and apologize first as this situation is of your making. You lied, and you were having sex. She only wants what is best for you.
4. Time will heal the trust thing but only if you quit hiding your life from your family. Not having sex after you have isn't fun and it doesn't feel fair. The deal is we do have more knowledge as we get older. You will too but right now your knowledge isn't as much and hormones are really high. Not dogging you, it's difficult to be 15. It's just safer to let your parents decide for now. When you are older, you get choice but for now, let them make this one. I really was pregnant at 16 and my child suffered for it by being raised by someone that wasn't prepared for the financial and emotional responsibilty.
5. Were you using a condom and birth control pills? If you weren't then maybe you needed to be slapped.
6. Talk to your step mom thats all she wants plus your to young to have sex and all that other stuff your stepmom is worried about you maybe she dont want you to mess up your life like having kids. and yes having kids at a young age will mess up your life you need to talk to her. about this she loves you if she didnt she wouldnt have want thought your things and talked to you about it. And try not to have sex anymore wate trust me
7. Of course she loves you thats why she was so upset! You are young, she does not want you to get pregnant, or get an STD. Plus she feels close to you & you lied to her. Taking nudie photos is serious at a young age. What if they got out? It happens to celebrities it could happen to you. You should appologize to her for not being honest. You need to get on the pill. I hope ya'll usse condoms, so you don't get an STD.
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