She filed for a simple divorce and she did not want any money. She can get a half of matrimonial home but she didn’t want it for now (she can claim it up to 2 years after divorce) I had 30 days to disagree and file an answer with the court. On 29th days I went to the court and I checked the court copy and I was shocked:
On the court copy she mentioned the reason for filing the divorce: Abuse and control
On the copy she gave me she mentioned: irreconcilable differences
I could easily get a lawyer and accuse her to fraud but I did not, I am not a fighter. I called her and told her what I saw, she said: I made a mistake; I gave the wrong copy to the court. I asked her to show me the Original. She said: we will go to the court together tomorrow and fix it. Next morning I asked her what time we will meet in the court she became angry and screamed at me: I am not self employed like you! I have to go to work and then ask my manager and come, I will give you a call. After 2 hours, I called her at work and realized she never went to her office that morning! She went to the court from home and asked the court clerk to switch the papers!
I talked to the clerk in the court later and she said she made a mistake and she should have checked the documents more carefully…
It is about a month that she wants to find an apartment but she procrastinates. She has a good job (she has a master degree) and can afford moving to another place. She is a control freak, do not trust me and does not believe in family counseling! We went to a counselor and she calls her a shrink and after 2 sessions she refused to come. For her it is my way or highway. Her 2 sisters are divorced too. We are married foe a year and a half; I can not enjoy my life when she is around. She is jealous and has a big ego.
What do you think my ex is doing? She served me with a different version of what she filed in the court! (In Toronto you should just give the photocopies to your ex and the original stays with my wife)
Answers:
1. Just get that divorce decree ASAP and be rid of the whole sordid mess.
2. sounds like shes trying to make your life a living hell. I think you should go and divorce her. Move on with your life .With in time you can find some one else. Do it now before its been 20 years down the road ,and you wake up one day wondering why you are unhappy. Run as fast as you can now.
3. The clerk was entirely wrong in not checking the papers and when you have your court hearing, be very specific in informing the judge of what had happened. She'll either be forced to ammend the papers on the spot or dismiss the case and have to re-file at a later time. The legal system does not take to kindly to the old switch-er-roo, and that's exactly what happened. She intended on filing those papers that way, she just didn't think you would notice. And within those two years, she'll come back and demand alimony or support based on her claims of abuse and her inability to cope. It's been done a zillion times hon, don't let it be a zillion and one. Fix the mistake and fix it now. Take your copy to the clerk of courts, ask for a filed copy and point out the difference NOW. You don't need her for this. If there is one fight you fight in life, this is the one worth fighting. Your character is on the line. Do you want that following you around the rest of your life for anyone to view? Especially if it's not true? I didn't think so. So go and fix the papers yourself to make sure they are correct.
Then get your divorce and let her go control someone else's life.
4. not to sound harsh, but she seems that she doesn't want to be with you at all. well, give her what she wants. she doesn't seem to be worth the fight. if she was not willing to at least try to save the marriage then she doesn't want to be married. plain and simple.
get the divorce and live a happy life without her!
5. I don't know what you are waiting for. Sign those paper you have at hand, forget about what on the other side, keep copies of what you signed and hurry up and get a divorce degree as soon as possible. If incase she will reopen the case after 2-3 months you won't be affected because that what she wanted forced to accept it and signed it. which would an advantage to you. Dont waste time
6. If you get divorced it does not actually matter WHY you are getting divorced.. It does not stay on a record or anything. I would just go through with the divorce and chalk this up to one final reason that it was worth getting divorced!
Good luck....
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